We aren't sure what we should do with the baby, I am 3 months preggo, and we really love eachother, what is this going to be like, how much does labor and giving birth hurt, will I be able to do this...
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well having the baby will be a life changing move, nothing will ever be the same, i was preg 2 time but i couldnt do it i wanted to keep my childhood. stay young as long as you can sweety. you may love this boy but you wont stay with him for your whole life i know this because when i was preg it was to a boy i loved with my whole heart but we broke up and i was only 14 years old, im not telling you to keep it or not just make the right choice =s good luck
ashleigh XOXOXO
Like they dont know that i'm pregnant.
it is extremely important that you tell them. sit them down, tell them you need their help with something, then tell them you are pregnant. that's my advise, i'm not saying that it's exactly what you should do, but if i had a 13 y/o daughter that was pregnant, i would sure want to know, wouldn't you? take it or leave it.
Ya thats true, I would want to know, I never thought of it from that perspective...I just don't want them to have a bad reaction, I am already kicked out and live with my grandmother, so how do I tell my mom and dad?
Sometimes there are just things in life that you have to do. You just are going to have to get over it and do it to get it out of your way. Your parents will find out some how. If they do not then it will not get you anywhere in life. When (if) they do find out they will probably get even more mad that you then they would have when (if) you tell them. So it would be better if you just told them NOW.
Yeah, I told them today, they freaked out and i'm going to live with my aunt, I have an ultrasound tomorrow that she has to take me to, but i'm glad I told them even though it happened like this...
i hope all goes well
well i say when you are ready tell them dont let everyone pressure you ! im so sorry tht u have to go through this just take it to the best and i hope u dont let this baby go to hell i say adoption is the best possible choice for u !
good luck let me know !<3 xoxoxoxo
Why would you say that? She's 13 not 25-30. She's not even sure if she's keeping the her first child. There are way too many teens thinking their grown then having babies then realizing just how tough trying to be the best parent is. So stop putting ideas into her head.
WHAT?! SHE'S A 13YEAROLD!!! What kind of advice is that?! You're persuading a kid to have a kid herself!!! And all because 'The world needs more babies'... HOW BOUT YA HAVE SOME YERSELF, OR SHUT YER TRAP AND SHUT IT GOOD!!!
Lmao!
Please tell me that was sarcasm
having a baby is a big step in life. theres a lot of complications with family and friends. if you decided to keep the baby you are giving a comitment and a promise to you and your baby. you must care for it and be ther. if you can you can get family friends and your bf to help you care for the baby you should be fine. just dont give up and keep believing in yourself...and dont let it happen again until u r ready!
Thank-you, and I'm keeping the babies, IT'S TWINS!! It's going to be hard, but I can do it!!
i swish u the best of luk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i wish u the best of luk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck
WOah goood luck u will need it im 13 too AND I TAKE care of my cousin and shes a handfull good luck
TWINS! wowsie! I wish you a lot of luck! my grandma had twins at age 30 and barely got out of it in 1 piece! U will need a lot of luck!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree 100%
aww congrats !! goood luck with your twins :)
Twins!!!!!!
Wow twins! Congratulations! It's a gift of God.
Good luck
What!! Twins. My mom hade twins (that's me lol) and she is really having a hard time ( I'm a hand full lol)
one thing is for sure. you cannot get an abortion. that is so depressing. not just to others but to yourself. you should trust that your boyfriend loves you especially if he is staying with you after findin out your preggo. you should stay with him and keep the baby. of coarse birth will hurt but its worth it. to have a child is very life changing. i am thirteen but have never had a child or been preggo. but a friend of mine was not too long ago and i wittnessed the birth of her adorable baby girl. she doesnt regret anything. only that she wasnt smoking. it has asthema. you have to be extremely responsible. if your lucky giving birth will be as quick as my friend. she was in the room for one night and left the next morning. good luck. hope you get through this okay and ready..
amber...
why should she not get an abortion, im sorry if this sound compleatly out of line but im totaly against teenage pregancy she decieded to have sex under the leagal age and even then was she using protection and what has her parents said my mother would have kicked me out its shameful and so i do believe that this young lady should get an abortion
what about her education and her life
she can have an abortion. don't tell her she can't.
Well I do agree with 'harriet' on how she can make the decision on whether or not to keep/kill her child. And yes, i do disagree with teen pregnancy, but i disagree more with abortion. There are other dicisions. Either dont have sex, use protection, keep the child, or give the child up. You dont have to be cruel and kill off an innocent life. EVERY CHILD NEEDS A LIFE!!! If you dont agree dont have kids, as simple as that.
I think that now is not the time to be forcing your own opionions on this young girl. I know some people agree with abortion and other dont but nows not the time or place.She needs our help to be guided to a right decision for HER.. now out aside what you believe and help her dont force her. I hope everything turns out for the best pet x
Ok, well, I'm against abortion, but I'm DEFINITELY against teen pregnancy. I see not why she should get an abortion, nor do I see why she shouldn't. I'm really neutral on the whole idea, but it's not a good idea to keep nor kill the baby. I really say you should go for it, and it's alot because no baby deserves to die. Abortion isn't like murder. It IS murder. Of a little life form that never got to see the light of day, or even their mother's face. That's what I think.
ok first things first, tht was a very poor choice haveing sex in the first place, expectialy at 13. i would keep the baby, but during the day while ur at school i would have ur mom or dad take care of him (or her).raising a baby is HARD work so be preparred to stay up VERY late from the baby crying. ur not gona have much time for urself.im not trying to scare u, but from seeing things like this on tv, giving birth is very painful. i think tht u might be able to do this IF u are kind, loving, and willing to spend LOTS of time focusing on ur baby.may i remind u tht the baby isn't a doll; u cant just take care of it for a week then forget about it. it will have feelings, needs, likes, dislikes, and requires ur undivided attension.i have no idea how ur gona breast feed so i recoment talking to a doctor about tht.good luck!
wow good answer
ikr
that's the correct answer of this situation
agreed! awesome answer! i am not having *** when i am 13! (i am 11)
:) wow thanks guys
YES!!! very good answer!! But just to say, if you get the epidural it doesnt hurt, it numbs you from the waste down. So you dont feel anything. But very good answer.
Nice answer but the mom or dad taking care of it i dont really get. Its her child and her responcibilty. She cant just pawn the baby off on her parents. I know she needs schooling but because she got pregnant, right now caring for her child is before anything else in the world. Her parents did the parenting thing and im sure they now have jobs and a busy life..there not babysitters. thanks
How is this even a question? Your a child you dont need a child. I can say without a doubt that if you were my daughter you would get an abortion it wouldnt even be an argument. Your not going to be able to do it!!! Your going to have a miserable life, get stretch marks, your guys going to leave you for a better looking girl, and your going to be semi-retarded because now you have no education to speak of. You ever seen those people in McDonalds that are in their late 40s working for a teenager? Thats going to be you. So I say get rid of the things as soon as possible if your against abortion then give them up for adoption there are plenty of good families that will take those babies so they dont have to grow up poor and stupid in a trailer park. Thats my opinion and if you were smart that would be your actions.
shes only 13 like me She made a mistake a bad desion
no1 isperfect
Abortion isnt always the best ting to do my Aunt almosted
died from doing that
Dont say semi retarted dat is very Disrespectful
Exactly what im talking about the last girl that commented on my answer cant even spell retarded. And of of course she knows someone whos had something bad happen to them dont we all. My answer stands get rid of that thing in your womb or kill yourself now and save the rest of our money from you getting SSI and food stamps cause they wont even hire you at McDonalds.
abortion is never the option. if my daughter was pregnant i would never let her go kill her baby. its like murder. just imagine if your parents were young and werent ready for you then you wouldnt even be here on this earth right now!!!!!!!!
i agree...but abortion shouldn't be the answer because she had sex in the first place and she should have to face the consequences....taking care of her baby at 13...i am not trying to disagree with you bebe...just trying to have a point
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Hey! Ever heard of homeschooling? you call yourself an adult! Here I am, a teenager and I have more common sense then you.
You don't tell her what to do. She should be happy.
And If i were your child there would be an arguement.
She doesn't need you yelling at her.
Yes she might've made the wrong decision but whats done is done. its in the PAST.
I bet she is one of the smartest girls in her school. (and there is homeschooling.)
I would say don't get an abortion. God gave you that child. Don't give it up for adoption. The child will always be left with that thought in the back of their head: "Who is my real parents? Why did they leave me?" Yes they might be explained why....but they will want to know you.
To Bebe,
I think that you are VERY rude and should appologize.
Sincerely,
Someone who actually cares
But even if she did the babies up for adoption, there are forms of adoption where the children can still stay in contact with their blood parents. It just depends on what kind of adoption you choose. Closed adoptions the child is not allowed to have any contact with the real parents. Semi is where they can send letters/emails but no physical contacts. Open they are allowed to go & see the child & spend time with them. & Abortion is completely wrong. No one should even try to get an abortion. Also, it is humanly incorrect to say "semi-retarded". You say "mentally challenged" or use the name of the problem they have. Just because you don't go to school, doesn't mean you can't have an education.
Not really the country is developing
ways for Young moms to go school.
ya all of her hope is not lost. thats just plain mean!!!!!!!!!!
Well Idk what to tell her..!
It's now mid July and if you had the baby i pray all went well. It's gonna be very hard at your age to raise a child, that being said try not to have another. I'm not going to go all father on you but please try to avoid having sex until you are much more mature. When your body starts wanting sex again do it your self, it will last longer and you will calm the need.
They are babies themselves..THEY ARE NOT READY!!!!!
sex at 13! that is so not good ! Wait until marriage at least! sex can be great when MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!
too late !
How do I know what the right choice is, I mean i've helped my aunt raise her three chilldren and my best friend is 13 and just got out of the hospital with her baby girl 3 days ago, I don't know how I should know to make the right choice, my parents don't even know.