I have suspicions of my wife cheating, and I don’t know if I’m being paranoid or right, so I hope this helps you see my dilemma. A week ago, my wife and I went to the local social, she was quiet all night. I went to the toilet and next minute when I come out she’s talking to this muscular bald chap, my wife gave introductions, soon after I went to speak to some of my pals, and my wife was still chatting away and laughing. Two hour or so later, we got a taxi home, said goodbye and that was it. In the taxi she was talking about how she never met him before tonight but got talking about houses (ours is on the market). A few days later I came home from work on my lunch to see her, there was a car parked outside, I guessed it was one of her friends. I walked in the house but no-one could be seen, the television was on but no-one there, I shouted her name but there was no reply, I started to walk up the stairs when she appeared on the landing coming out of the bedroom with the bald chap, her hair was ruffled and blouse no fully buttoned, his t-shirt was creased like he’d just chuck it on. I asked what they was doing ad she replied that he was looking at the house, we went downstairs and I offered him a cuppa but he said he’d best be going. Minutes later I went to work. That evening I came home from work and found a ripped condom on the drive, my started to have further suspicions. Nut it could have been one of the boys, I was a lad once. I went upstairs to get changed to see the bed cover and sheets had been changed. What do you think?
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I would say, don't shoot yourself in the foot until you get all the evidence. It does sound dodgy, so stay vigilant. Take note of if she does things like change her routine, hides her phone/calls etc. is secretive on the computer, deletes phone and computer often. In my book if your hiding it, you know you r doing something you arnt supposed to. Observe if she suddenly has outings or lots of appointments or meetings/seminars/social events at work outside usual hours, over explains excuses is a goody (that's how you catch a liar) or picks fights, that's how a cheater distances themselves then goes all gooey to make it up. Especially take note once you do sell that house if he is still somehow in the picture. She will have an excuse why he is still buzzing around once even though you have moved to get him in the picture.
Well, there are a lot of evidence here for you to think that your wife is cheating on you. If that were my wife. I would confront her and ask her to be honest. This happened to a buddy of mine, and what he did was hired a private investigator. The PI would investigate and spy so you would know for a fact. My buddy thought it was a good idea because he wouldn't have to do all the spying and he doesn't want to see the truth if it was true. Your wife wouldn't even know that the PI was there, or the actually truth about you doing that if you kept it to yourself. I don't blame my buddy for doing it either. I live in the US and my buddy got a divorce and those photos can in handy for court! That is just my opinion on your situation on which ever route you want to go. Good luck man
Dear Friend, Don't worry about your wife...you should change yourself instead of changing her routine and following her like a cop.. In maritial life it happens with everyone. Some people just blindly ignore it., and Some people figure out that what suppose to be done.. You must try this- 1.Surprise her(give goodies ,she will love it if you get the fav ones) 2.Don't care about phone calls and mails(its her choice whether she embraces it or ignores it) 3.Treat her friend politely .(that will make him numb) 4.Show how nice you are.. 5.go to sleep without letting her know. 6.just live your life ,go alone to beaches,hill stations and churches ,wherever you feel relaxed. 7.I know its tough but everyone out there facing these issues... 8.Don't get demotivated. I know you're so loyal and you Love her so much.. Dear friend,Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.-the holy bible.:)
There is no point of deceiving our self, honestly something unholy is going on according to ur explanation. First u just hav to pray that God should expose them for every one but pls call her and ask her face to face. If she denai then be vigilant or else u may be harm for her to av her way. If she want to go don't force her pls.
I'm sooo sorry to say this,but I think she is. Try putting CCTV cameras in you and your wife's room,or some parts of the house. Or when she thinks your not there,try spying what she's doing. Or you could tell her you're gonna go somewhere and tell her you'll leave at a late hour. But you will not and spy on what she's doing. Hope this helps,and wish she isn't cheating in you!
I think you are right, I have another option for this you can put up a transmitter on your wife's sim card.