My boyfriend and I have had our ups and downs. I have a small temper, but I'm just a girl. We had a fun night drinking together at his house, he fell asleep on his couch and I went upstairs to wait for him, but I read his text messages... which i usually never do. I found a text to a random girl that said "your a babe" at 3 in the morning, and he was most likely drunk. I was really hurt by it, I never would do that to him, when I'm drunk I'm more conscious about my actions. But being drunk that night i was really upset and went to wake him up. I asked him "who was the babe, who was that, why would you do that" he wouldn't even wake up when I was talking to him, he had to go to bed anyways so i had to wake him up. But i was so angry I took his phone and slammed it on his chest. like a punch, Not too hard, enough to where he could feel it, but I don't hurt him. He was furious and slammed me down to the floor, squeezed my arms and hit me a lot, punching me. i kicked him for defense but he kept hitting me. At this point i was in shock because he was being so violent, it continued in his room he grabbed my face and slammed my body against the wall, when he did that he hurt my eye pretty badly, the contact fell out and my eyelid is bruised. I ran to my car to cry but couldn't drive because i was drunk. But he came out and was demanding me to get out of the car, threatening me and left dents in it from him punching it. I got out and went to bed with him. But slept no where near him, on the opposite side of the bed. I cried myself to sleep as he was telling me to shut up because i was being loud. and its my fault for hitting him first. He thinks I'm hypocritical because i hit him first. But when i hit him its like a girl. he hits me like a man, harder, and a lot more. I know its my fault for starting it, but Im just so hurt from that text. My eye, both arms and back are bruised. I left early in the morning the next day. He called 2 hours later not remembering anything. He doesn't understand what happened. and Im just appalled. I do feel like a hypocrite because i did hit him, but was it okay for him to go this far? He came over even though i told him not to, saying he was embarrassed doing this to me, he felt like he was set up bc i hit him while he was sleeping, he was apologizing to me. and its just so hard, i don't know what to do. He was drunk and vulnerable, but he totally crossed the line because I'm here with big bruises on both arms, and a bruised eye lid. We've had hitting problems before, a long time ago though. he tells me if i don't want to get hit back, i shouldn't hit him. but he hurts me so much more, i don't hit him back after, its not a fist fight or anything. Things just got out of control with him. I don't know if i should forgive him because he was drunk and i started it, or if this is really a problem. please help me. should i accept his apology, was everything really my fault, Its so hard for me to get rid of him, because we've been together for so long, did he cross the line?
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okay you were a tiny bit in the wrong for hitting him but he was cheating on youhope that gives you a tiny bit of the right to be madyou should not have hit him but he be proud of you there's a difference between saying someone is beating the crap out of them he beat the crap out of you you should have just hit you once and be done with itcast you out or something he did not have to inflict violence upon you he needs to get his ass beaten you should not forgive him you should leave him get a restraining order on himand only worry about yourself not anyone elseand I have to give a personal security Jim whenever the hell is bugging you manI do not give a f***and if you don't know what f*** means the Dan being a freakretard
If there is violence your relationship will never improve, and obviously neither of you are mature enough to handle a committed relationship. That said if you hit a dude expect him to hit you back, equal rights and everything.
For the person that says turn to god, you are an idiot. God didn't have anything to do with it. just like he doesnt care if the jets beat the patriots. He doesn't care because he doesn't exist. Please keep your dogma out of real world issues you just make it worse.
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Okay so he was drunk. But one thing is that he should know what he was doing when he was drunk. Me and my boyfriend hit each other all the time and to me it doesn't hurt cause i got used to it but we play fight sometimes it will get to some point either i'm mad and i hit him really hard he hits me hard back. What he did was wrong and u didn't even hit him. All u did was read his message and found out that message and u wanted to talk to him about it. What you should have done is wait till he is sober and talk it out. Oh yea do not disturb a man or your boyfriend when he is asleep when drunk because men sometimes can get crazy. But hurting you like that isn't right. You should not forgive him for doing that and especially talking to another girl and that girl calling him babe like wtf. My bf is strictly forbidden to talk to other girls that i don't even know and if i find out he would have consequences. Anyways leave him and find yourself someone who doesn't get that drunk and violent. You disturbed him from sleeping but no man should hit a women. And your the one that has bruises he doesn't so u should go to the police and tell them what happened. Basically you thre his phone on his chest.
Don't forgive him, don't go back to him. Female or male you should never forgive someone who abuses you, no matter how many he/she apolgized afterwards or buys you gifts. And most of all do not blame yourself, no matter what you do no one should ever lay a hand on you its wrong. He will most likely do it again. So please if you love yourself do not go back to him. You deserve better, you will find someone who treats you the way you are suppose to be treated. It doesnt matter that you have known him for a long time. no one should ever do that to you. It wasnt your fault remember that, he is wrong for doing what what he did.
Well, it would have been a better decision to wait until he was sober, then bring up the issue, without hitting him.
However, this does NOT excuse his behavior. A man should only hit a woman for self-defense, and this was NOT a case of self-defense. You really need to ditch that son of a you-know-what and possibly call the police if he is violent again...
If you have not ended this relationship do. Right now!! Because the next time he has an alcohol induced blackout and doesnt remember his actions, he might kill you, himself or others, and wont be so lucky.
This is a felony and you couldve had him arrested. Dont matter if you have been together forever or that you threw the phone at him, just get away from him, get out, Leave and do not look back. You are young! And he is already looking at other girls anyway... There is no way slamming someone with a cel phone is on the same level as the abuse you underwent..this is part of what is killing our society! Seek pro help t...no use getting enebriated and getting into the same situation down the road.
The reality of it is that you're both in need of a better education and psychological assistance. There's trust issues, so that's enough reason to get out of the relationship right there. You have low self-esteem which continues this relationship. Yes, you are also wrong for hitting. You need to see a counselor.
Is he abusive? Yes, but you have tendencies too. If either of you respected each other or yourselves none of this would happen as you wouldn't tolerate any of this.
Please do not have children until seriously change your mentalities. We are not cattle or cavemen any more so stop living like we are in the Stone Age.
Omg!! I can't believe that you are still asking this question. Your boyfriend clearly abused you physically and the worst part is he was drunk. So, he will never change. you should file a complaint against your boyfriend for domestic violence. If you forgive him now, you are encouraging him to do this. Abuse never ends, you just learn to live with it cursing urself every single day. trust me, I've been there. The only difference is that it was my father. You don't deserve this. Please stand up for your rights. This is not just a relationship thing anymore. It's a crime. If women like you accept the abuse on them, we would live in an ugly society. He did this to you and you guys are not even married. Just imagine what he would do to you had you been married to him. Not just you but your children too and at that point, you would have no one to blame but yourself. My dad used to beat my mom continuously after getting drunk, not as hard as your boyfriend did and we would just stand there crying. Please don't let this be your future. You are a beautiful woman with such a big heart thinking about forgiving him after even after this pathetic shit. Just leave him and I'll tell you. As soon as you tell him that it's over, he might beg you and tell you that he will change but the truth is he will never change. I've heard many stories regarding domestic violence and mark my words, they are all the same. He abuses, you forgive, he abuses you more, you forgive him again and this continues. As much as it might hurt you to leave him, you have to let this poison out of your life for your good. Please don't accept this ruthless behaviour and be strong. Leave him immediately and don't look back. Turn off your cellphone, change ur number, go on a vacation but don't look back and someday you will be thankful for this.
I have been in some bad relationships I know what its like to love someone that loves to hurt you , and sometimes your not sure if its you or them , its normal to fight and argue yes sometimes it goes to far in my opinion if he doesnt admit to being wrong he blames you for hitting first get away from him it will only get worse , plus it seems like hes putting focus on you hitting him to avoid the original problem , the text message to another girl . I know its hard but sometimes the best thing for you is to move on . Good luck hope this helps
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turns out i didn't read it so like :3 love u