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I've never been married but I did cheat on someone once. The reasons are so complex and there are many of them. I still loved her, I was interested in her, she made me laugh, she made me think, I was still affectionate with her and cared about her. The sex was great and I wanted her as much as I ever did.
With all that said, it seems insane that I would cheat on her. And yet I did. She cheated on me too. It was a combination of so many factors from:
a) I wasn't ready to commit and was too weak to end the relationship
b) We spent parts of the relationship at long-distance
c) We were both depressed at points during our relationship
d) We didn't communicate negative things effectively (we never once had a row)
e) We both suffered trauma during the relationship (her, massively, as her father committed suicide just days before we got together, and this is kind of what brought us together as she really needed someone to be there for her).
As you can see from the above, neither of us was completely the bad guy or the good guy. We did some things wrong but life also got in the way.
I still think the world of her and would do anything for her.
