I'm nearly 17 and I'm 5ft 5 and skinny. I'm generally known as shy, kind and intelligent. I think I've gone through yr 4-11 that's the age 9-16 with no one at school I know of been attracted to me. But someone did say I'd be attractive if I was tall. Is height really an issue for girls? Another thing is I've be called cute but at 14-16 years old I really don't want to be cute. And everyone thinks of me as younger than them when I'm older than most of them. I find it extremely frustrating
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Many youths try to camouflage their lack of self-confidence by displays of false bravado, by outrageous attire, or by rebellion. But there are much better ways of coping with those times when you feel insecure.
Acknowledge Your Positive Qualities: You may not have the perfect figure or physique, but you developed other aspects of your personality that will attract
the right people whom you have things in common with. Avoid Unfair Comparisons: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.Take Criticism in Stride: “Do not give your heart to all the words that people may speak,” especially when they are simply putting you down. (Ecclesiastes 7:21. If it is your parent discuss with them after you calm down what they may have said that hurt you. Set Realistic Goals: You do not need to be the class valedictorian to be a fine student or an Olympic athlete to enjoy sports. Yet, don’t set your goals excessively low because of fear of failure. Failure can serve as a means of learning. After all, you learn to walk by overcoming the tendency to fall down. These suggestions will no doubt help. But don’t expect a sense of security to develop overnight. Be patient. Expect setbacks, and try not to indulge in self-pity. In due time you will find yourself feeling more secure than ever. Read about other people who are short and how they over came this insecurity. Focus on your goals and work on them. Feelings of insecurity are simply a part of growing up and may never disappear completely. Undue concern with appearance, reputation, or abilities can continue to shake one’s confidence even when one is a poised adult.
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