Being pretty is not all it's cut out to be. I'm not popular, and I don't have a boyfriend. Simply said, everyone seems to hate me. How do I earn people's attention or respect if they don't even look past my face?
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Exactly what you said, give them a reason. Do something and do it the best. What do you have goin on for you beyond your looks? Focus on that and that's where the attention will be focused to. I am beautiful, single, 24 years old and I'm happy. You will realize life is about surviving and doing what makes you happy so do just that. Go to school, Work, make your money, accomplish as much as you can accomplish and then you will be credited for your work and not your beauty. Beauty isn't everything.. If you think people hate you because of your Beauty, I think you're wrong, It might be your attitude or the way you carry yourself. You know your pretty and so do the people around you, you can keep the cockiness or "confidence" to yourself.
there are two reasons for being hated due to superiority in some field :- 1. jealousy - girls don't appreciate it when they see a prettier girl and usually don't like talking to them 2. show off :- if people have a superiority in something and they tend to show that others are low then the others will hate them so try to be polite and humble and be very helpful. show them you are the kind one and are friendly. I hope this helps you
“As a gold nose ring in the snout of a pig, so is a woman that is pretty but that is turning away from sensibleness,” (Proverbs 11:22) Nose rings were a popular adornment during Bible times. A gold nose ring inserted through the side of the nose or through the septum separating the nostrils would be a readily noticeable piece of jewelry on a woman. How inappropriate such an exquisite ornament would be in the snout of a pig! It is similar with an outwardly beautiful person who lacks “sensibleness.” Most beautiful woman today are indeed "senseless" seeing as their physical beauty as a means of gain (just look at Kim K). Hence many people mistakenly stereotype attractive women. Your best defense in this matter is to cultivate such qualities as practical wisdom, thinking ability, and proper use of the tongue that truly contribute to a person’s value and charm.
I've read the other answers and it seems to me that most people feel that you need to be nicer than a less attractive person; humbler, more helpful...in essence, grovel.
It won't work.
However, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't be the very best person that you can be.
The main reason that average looking girls avoid you is because standing next to you makes them feel bad about their own appearance, and the truth is that if you had a group of friends, you would be the one always getting noticed and naturally, that makes the other girls feel inferior and jealous (but don't expect anyone to ever admit that because saying "I'm jealous" feels the same as saying "I'm less than you" & it's just not in human nature to be that disloyal to one's own self).
However, when you are mostly alone (as seems to be the case) boys will also avoid you because of two main reasons: 1) Nobody wants to be associated with someone who's perceived as being unpopular no matter how good looking they are. 2) They may simply be afraid of rejection.
The first thing I would recommend you do is to figure out what you really want. You mentioned two things, attention and respect. If you crave attention, maybe you should find an outlet for it like drama class or modeling. Respect starts with yourself though. If you respect yourself and others, you're already on the right track.
I think the best favor you can do for yourself right now is to practice forgetting about your looks. In the morning, put on your make-up & get ready for the day. Take one last look in the mirror and say "I look good enough" then put your appearance out of your mind for the rest of the day. If it's going to be an issue for someone else, there's nothing you can do about that. Eventually, you will develop a friendship or two and that will lead to even more and, believe me, that is one thing that gets easier with age.
I really hope some of this helps :) & try to remember that when certain individuals seem to hate you on sight and treat you unkindly, they most likely have major self esteem issues and feel bad about themselves but take it out on you. You can't really do anything about that except try to love in spite of it and to treat them better than they treated you. Chances are that it won't make much difference in their feelings toward you but you'll be glad you didn't deliberately hurt them back and that is something that will earn you respect even if it's only self respect, but sometimes it will turn out better and, who knows, you could even make a new friend.