Who controls our feelings?

There are three conditions called "feelings". One is the central nervous system that tells you when you hurt or touch something or where your hand is and so on. The other is emotions, which are behaviors that you have to learn. The third is mental images and impressions that are taught to you specifically to control your emotional state. That would be patriotism, family ties, and so on. As for who ... anybody you allow. You do get a choice, although a lot of people deny that.