My fiancee was telling me that her son & his partner may have taken their 9mo. old baby to a Blue Jays baseball game yesterday, & it would have been her 1st baseball game. I said to her.."are you serious, they may have taken her to a baseball game..at 9mos of age. She wouldn't understand what's going on, & she's cranky because of teething". My fiancee became angry with me, saying that I was being sarcastic, & I do this a lot when it comes to things 'the kids' do. I WILL be sarcastic here now..what's the big deal in a 9mo old at a baseball game!? In any event, I find this a little much to say the least. I can't get excited over something as trivial as this. I would think her 1st Christmas (which was last December, she was born in November) or her 1st birthday would be more important..NOT a baseball game. I'm finding my fiancee is constantly talking about this/that where her son & his partner are concerned. Although my fiancee is a hard worker, she doesn't earn a lot of money..& must really watch what she does, but she's told me she's going to save as much as she can so she can fly out to where the son lives for the baby's 1st birthday in November...going on a Thursday, returning
on Sunday. A lot of money for a weekend..but I won't say anything. The son didn't send my fiancee a gift at Christmas, nor a card...same for her birthday. He's got the money..just didn't bother. When I mentioned this to my fiancee (about the lack of Christmas gift) she didn't get upset about that, just quiet, which told me she was
a little hurt over it.
Getting back to the 'baseball' thing. I don't see what I said was so wrong. Can you please help me. How do I delicately tell her that I don't want to hear about the baby
on a constant basis??
What was so wrong in what I said???
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I have a serious illness, & I've said to my fiancee that I'm nearly 'finished'. She knows what I mean by that, but she said to me..."don't say that, it bothers me". Huh? It was just over a week ago she was crying saying my illness overwhelms her, & she doesn't want to ever lose me, but what I said "bothers' her!?
Thanks!! Quite frankly, I am tired of hearing about what they're doing (son & his partner) or what they're doing with the baby. While I respect the fact that my fiancee is over-the-moon at being a grandparent, she's going overboard. They make a big deal out of plans they're considering a few years down the road.! While that can potentially be an exciting thing, a few years down the road can change things dramatically. They're making all these plans, etc...but no mention of getting married. I'm from the old school, & that part of it rather bothers me..but I've only mentioned this to my fiancee on 1 other occasion. I'd want MY grandchildren to have a proper surname.