What to do if you have a stepmom who hates you?

Hello, I don't think your stepmom hates you but, i also don't know here so i couldn't say that. Everyone will have ups and downs with stepparents especially if the child is much older. If things get worse than you should contact a family member and let them know. Maybe you should try to talk to her and let her know how you feel and what is bothering you. Good luck!

Have YOU ever made an effort to welcome her into the family or show respect?

It's the end of the year so perfect time to do this. Quiet evening nobody yelling. If the 3 of you are having a nice dinner alone compliment the meal or something about it to set the tone. Chat with both of them.

Ask if they are looking forward to New Years and are they making any new year resolutions because you've been thinking about that. Let them answer then you tell them yours.

You say you want there to be less animosity and tension within the family and you want the relationship between you and step mom to improve. Be sincere and light. Tell them that you'd like her to tell you what you need to do so that she feels more happy with you what could you do so that the two of you can enjoy spending time together.

You can also do this after dinner but should be done with the 3 of you. I think its important that your dad hears this so this is between all of you and she can't deny you ever did it.

Does she have different rules than your dad because maybe what he thinks is okay she does not so they need to decide between them which rule. So ask her in front of dad but dont make it as if you are pointing your finger at her. You just want to look like the thoughtful kid trying to make things better. Ask if the two of you could go for walks or go out for a burger or to a movie together and start learning to enjoy each other's company. Even if it doesn't happen, dad sees you made an honest effort.

Like I said this is a perfect time to bring it up. Good luck! Happy New Year.