I'll be 19 the first week of November and a week later I want to go see my friend in Texas and welcome her new baby boy into the world(I live in Louisiana). I'll have my own car and insurance paid by my fiance and I. The issue is if I were to tell my parents I am going to Texas the answer would be no. I know this because I have brought up driving there before and my mother laughed in my face and told me no. I also had the opportunity to go up with my fiance to Tennessee to see his college(his mother was going to drive) and again was laughed off and told no. I don't know what to do, I don't even know how they will respond to me having my own car. My parents constantly talk about how I need to become more independent then do a 180 degree turn around. For example, I was told I needed a job in January 2016. I got one but I couldn't handle the pressure(props to you servers out there). I tried getting a different job after quitting that one(cashier) and was told, 'Why do you want a job? You don't need a job.'. I've also mentioned getting a job at college. Originally I was praised, a week later my mother tried talking to me about waiting till after the first semester, or even the first year before getting one even though we need the money.
I can have polite conversations with my parents and I'll do what they tell me but I want the ability to be myself which they inhibit. I ask to see friends and my fiance so I can get out the house, but if I try to go out more than once a week they tend to criticize me and tell me I don't spend enough time at home. They've recently called me anti-social because I don't like talking to them, stay home too much, and don't hang out with friends and cousins often enough. I want to become independent as quickly as possible which they seem to want but also make very difficult.
In all, I'm worried that if I try to go to Texas they'll threaten me and/or call the police. I don't want to completely diss them but the only other option is not going which isn't happening. Not telling them is also not an option. This is really stressing me out.
Note: I'm still supported by my parents at the moment, though once I am in college(another week) I will no longer need their support. Also, my parents don't know I am engaged to my loving fiance, they believe he is only my boyfriend. I'm afraid to tell them that too...