My mom recently asked me if I wanted to go to a three week summer camp for music. I really like violin and music, so this would seem ideal for me. One of the faculty members was at a workshop with me and told me that I would probably get put in the most advanced group if I auditioned, which I was happy about. It all sounded like fun, until I learned about how long it was and that I would be at the camp during my birthday. My mom sounded really excited about it, but to be honest I really wasn't. It was far away, it was during my birthday, I didn't know anyone there, and it sounded like it would be a lot of work. I also don't have a phone, which means I would have no connection with my family except for good old "snail mail". It also meant I couldn't go to some of the camps that are a summer must for me. Normally I don't have a problem with overnight things and stuff like that, but I am not too enthusiastic about this idea. Last year, I had gone to Germany for a foreign exchange program for a month with a couple of people I knew, and it was really fun and I liked it, which is why I think my mom wants me to go to this camp. However, I knew some people there and I speak German like some of the people there, so it really wasn't a problem for me. I missed a lot during that summer though, and I'm not sure I would do that again right after I just had been away for a month. I don't want to disappoint my mom and sound like a quitter, but I really would rather stay home and hang out with my friends. How can I tell my mom no without sounding like a spoilsport?
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Just let her know how you feel, she should understand (and if she doesn't it won't hurt you). However, this camp may be a good opportunity for you. Chances are you will be living out on your own soon, so you will be celebrating birthdays and holidays away from them, so this may be a good short term practice for the future. I hope the whole situation works out!
I would just tell her that you don't want to be away from family and friends cuz of your birthday. Explain that while you are greatful that she supports your interests and you love her enthusiasm, that it would just be too much to go. On the flip side this might be a once in a lifetime thing for you and I know from experience and regrets that sometimes taking that leap can end up being something much better than you ever thought. This could lead you to someone you're supposed to meet. Or and opportunity you hadn't considered that could end up being a great birthday present. Whatever you decide to do. I wish you all the luck. And happy birthday :)