She says birthdays are just another day and I told her it would mean alot to me if she came because I recently lost a very close uncle and this year would be my first birthday without him. She said she made plans for the New Year to spend more time at home and that's not a problem but I just wished she would spend my birthday with me. I pretended like it didn't bother me but it really hurt and now she says I've been distant but I can't help it.