So my girlfriend and I this morning at school were walking around and talking and obviously i could something was up because she was not talking at all and wasn't acting normal. we walked and then i stopped her and asked whats up. she said its really hard to explain. so i asked her if it was she wanted to break up and she said yes and no. she said she was not ready for a boyfriend (we have been dating for 2 months) and that there is too much drama right now. She said she wants to try and be friends still because we were really great best friends then dated. I did ask if her and i could ever get back together and she said yes but it would be a couple of months or more. I went home sick because i am really sick as it is and that didn't help me either. What should i do. i really want to be with her because she is the only one who makes me happy and doesn't say **** about me behind my back
What should I do from here?
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- 3+ months ago by Blitz
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- school, talking, morning, walking, girlfriend, relationship, schools
Answers (1)
Hi there,
Firstly I'm sorry to hear about that, it's pretty heart-wrenching to hear those words, especially if you felt that close.
As for my answer, well if she's not ready for a boyfriend then forcing it will only push her away, understanding that this is a time where she doesn't feel ready for a relationship will help keep your friendship intact.
Now if you do not want to hear bad news then I suggest you skip this part, I don't think you will be able to get back in a relationship again with her. Usually when people ask to just be friends then they mean it, that they just want to be friends. I know that this may be hard to take but maybe it's for the best if you try and accept that it may not be possible. My reasoning is that if you were best friends before then she may not want to risk damaging that.
I could be wrong and she maybe does want to get back together at a later stage, but ask yourself this, if you chase her will she want to come back?
I would take this time to try and develop some more friends you can trust, as you said if there are those that say hurtful things about you then they are not friends worth having, they simply will eat away at your ego until not much is left. It may be difficult but try and do this.
Also try getting some more female friends but don't explicitly go after them in a relationship sense, at least not until you can feel like you can move on from your friend as it will seem and probably be a rebound and that'll only cause damage.
As a parting note, remember you are still in school, in these years it is ok to try new things and it is important to enjoy yourself, if you try and have fun and enjoy yourself then people will take notice.