My school makes my life a living nightmare. The girls are cruel and evil. They start nasty horrible major rumors, call me names, turn everyone against me, kick the back of my chair, pull my hood off, hide my books, put dirt or mud on my jacket, spill stuff on my table, and other mean things. I go to a school thats K to 12, and has about only 300 or less kids in it; so it all gets around fast, and i'm sick of it. Im in grade 10. The teachers don't do anything about it, and my p don't give a shit. My councillor wants me to transfer, she thinks that it'd be better and id be happier. Id be held back a year though, which would be alright because I know a lot of people I get along with in that school. Should I transfer anyways? And should I let my councillor know that i'm cutting because of it all?
What should I do?
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- 3+ months ago by lifeswort...
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Added 3+ months ago:
Hello! Originally poster here! I just wanted to give an update, people still seem to be giving answers to this with advice and that is amazing! But anyway, I did report it. I did transfer out of that school and attended a different high school. I wasn't held back a year, I graduated with great marks. Since then I've graduated from community college, and currently attending university. My amazing boyfriend and I are expecting our first born, and we are currently living together in a big house with a big yard and looking to adopt a furry little friend!
ALSO I've been cut free for about 4 years now, I stopped shortly after I transferred out and I made amazing friends that got me through the rough patches. I'm no longer in therapy, and where I do have some bad days where I think I might relapse, I don't. I'm stronger than that blade.
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i went to a small school in middle school just like you, 300 kids for grades 6-8, everyone knew each other and rumors were spread fast. i know of a kid who just had the hardest times. i picked on him once, he was so upset he told his mom and his mom called the teacher, i told him sorry but this was 3 years ago. looking back on it i feel like a douche. i wrote him a FB message telling him sorry for all the crap he put up with and that i don't want to be known as an enemy to him, after knowing the pain he went through i wish he had transferred. he knew kids at the other school. i think if i were you i'd transfer in a heart beat. i see what your going through in high school and its awful, i wish i had more time at lunch to sit with all the lonely kids and talk to them. transfer if it really sucks for you. i hate seeing kids upset at school!
I know you're in a difficult spot right now, I know how that feels, i went through a bit of a weird stage when i was about 10-12 (I wasn't very sociable or communicative) and was deemed as an outcast. No need to say that jokes started being made and so on. I did manage to turn things arround for me and you could do the same, you just need to find something that suits you and find balance in your life.
What i did, and I think you can do the same, is find an activity you enjoy for starters. Try sports, even if you may not be good at them at the beggining, you will get there. It is very important as it helps your self esteem, which I know first hand that it gets very low during these times. But keep in mind not to let it take over your life as, at the moment, getting ready for life on an academic level should be your first priority. Find something very competitive (I for instance started kickboxing and joined a debate club). I also presume you are an intelligent person in which case you can also take the next step.
After some time, when my self respect came back, I started "fighting" back. I'm not talking about anything phisical as I am qutie a pacifist and believe violence does not solve anything. I started using my knowledge and intelligence to make "those people" feel stupid, insignificant and inferior. You don't need to go after everyone, take down the "alpha male" (the "cool" dumb guy) and the "world class bitch" who have been giving you the most pain. Once you do that I can guarantee that everyone else will back off and start seeing you in another way. They might try to fight back, usually getting phisical (as they are not capable of intellectual reasoning). In my case doing kickboxing helped me, a fight never took place but I was very confident that if I wanted to I could knock him out, which made him back off. From that point on, no one was ever mean to me again and some of them came up appologized and even became my friends after they saw what was really underneeth.
Another advice, do not hate the people who did that to you. They're only doing it either to get attention from the other kids, as they are not getting it at home, or because they have massive flaws (lack of intelligence is usually the case). But also you must not let them walk all over your. And most importantly, know when to stop, be very careful not to become one of the people you despise so much.
This has worked perfectly for me. Now I'm a 22 year old Architecture student in the UK, with a good social life, a girlfriend and I have a large number of friends, I'm very confident that I can do whatever I want in this world and nothing can stop me. All of this thanks to that victory I had over all the other kids. By the way, this is the first question I'm answering on this site and I made an account just to answer this one, which I had randomly stumbled upon.
Yes sure, you could transfer to another school, but that will only hide the problem in the closet. Yes, you could tell the appropriate authorities, but that would just pass it on to someone else and maybe temporarily lighten the situation, but not solve it. What you need to do kid, is stand up for yourself and fight back. And if you do, if you make it, there will be no better feeling and you'll see your life turning arround.
So to sum up, my advice to you is: help yourself. Don't expect someone else to solve this for you. Stand up and fight for yourself! As the path you're on now is not a good or healthy one, it can not leed to a happy life.
Hope this was helpful and have a good day.
it's a really tough thing. we believe that when we go to school we should enjoy the time we are inside of it but what happen to you was not healthy anymore for you. you should try to talk with your teachers or even the bullies why they do it to you. just be relax everything will be fine in time. if you really don't have choice but to transfer in other school then you can do it if it makes you peaceful and happy.
Hey you guys! Its me! Just giving a update, sorry I haven't been able to reply I've been busy and honestly haven't noticed that there have been moreee answers have been made! So I tranferred schools! I have never been happier! I have bestfriends, and people who actuated care about me. Its my last year in high-school (they ended up not holding me back a year) and I actually now see a future ahead of me! I stopped cutting. That part of my life is done nd over with. Oh, and I also met a guy since I've transfered! ;) I'm not confident and believe in myseelf! Transfering schools was the best thing that happened to me!:)
thats so sad that kids do that... a few years ago, i used to be fat, and people were horrible to me and wouldnt let me forget it. Have you talked to your parents about this, and included your guidance counsoler in the conversation? I personally think that you should transfer schools if that would make you happy. Maybe then you would feel better, and stop the cutting.
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