I'm having difficulty with the one that I love and care about he is not the man he used to be I miss him a lot he used to give me hugs and kiss and would want to make up for the times we did get to share with each other and he would make promises to me and he meant a lot to me and we been having a on and off relationship for four years now and I don't understand why he's changed maybe because he had kids but me and him still was seeing each other and he even told me he wanted things to go back to the way things used to be but I guess we can't go back and time to fix our differences we just have to move on and its hard how can I remain friends with him and not be intimate because I still love him how or better yet how can I just be friends with him without catching deeper feelings for him?
What should I do ?
Added 3+ months ago:
I was with him first before he had kids it wasn't until he cheated on me is when we had our problems and he wanted to make up for it and we have been on and off because I kept leaving him thinking he would change but I want my baby to change so bad because I want to be with him again
Answers (2)
Well, if you want to continue to be friends, I would suggest taking a break. Maybe hanging out with other friends, or maybe finding a new person to be interested in would definitely help. Hanging out with this guy will NOT help you forget your feelings for him. If he has kids, or is not acting the same, maybe he has lost feeling or interest. Everyone deserves to be treated fair, and if he is keeping you from that, move on. Either try to "fix" him with some sort of counceling, or find someone that will treat you, how you NEED to be treated. Maybe when you have both completely moved on, you can try to be friends. But it's very unlikely that will happen. Sorry and I wish you the best of luck. <3
I know where you are coming. I've been there. You have to be honest with him regarding with your feelings and what you wanted and ask him to be honest to you as well. Ask him to tell you how he feels for you, what he wanted...from there you can decide whether you will continue your relationship with him or you better be friends.
If you have decided that you the two of you is better to be friends..you should not hang out with him often and hang out with other people. Never come near him alone because your feelings will come back easily. It is always hard at first but you'll get by.
Thank you for your responds it helped out a lot.