My girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 years now and have a 4 month baby. She wants to get married, but I don't. I like how things are right now and I don't see a point in marriage. Also, I'm afraid that if it does not work that we will get divorce. Any advice or suggestions?
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If you do get married don't do it in the uk or us, the guy almost always get the short end of the stick when it comes to a divorce under there laws get marrid in france or somthing there you take out what you put in to the marriage when you get devorst and if you die your children get you're helf so you don't have to worry about your wife killing you for the inheritance also you can swing it so it looks like geting marid there is an romantique gesture or samthing it a big country you can make somthing up say you want a white wedding on skis or you like to do it over Paris via hot air balloon I dont no how hard can it be to convince here it a good idea.
Just remember that in every country the laws regarding marriage and divorce are differeant. you mite get everything just be saying I devorcy 3 time in some conries I don't know personaly I'm never going to get married I thick marriage it an outdated construct created so 1 person mite have more controle over another plus geting married makes things harder if you wake sorry break up.
Well since you been together that long and have s baby together. You are common law married. She has the same legal right as if you married. My brother never married the girl he was with the mother of his 3 kids. When they broke up it was big long drawn out court case. She got everything and $2500 per month child support. Only way out of this is if you both have had seperate lives. And the baby has here maiden last name. . Might as well get married give your child a family and be happy family. There are laws that can be allow her to take you to court as a married couple. If you were to leaves her or want married to another woman. Unless you can prove two seperate residents the whole time you been together then you already common law married.
You probably should take responsibility for the kid's sake. It's hard growing up with divorced parents, but it's harder growing up with parents that aren't even together. You brought a kid into this world, and now you have to do what's best for it. You can tell your girlfriend that the marriage is for the kid, but in my opinion, you still should do it. If marriage is just a silly little ceremony to you than how big of a deal is it to go through a silly little ceremony for your girlfriend and kid. You may not want it, but it isn't about you anymore, It's about your family. Once you have a kid you have a family. You have to do what's best for them. Put them first.
Now if you have nothing and rent and live pay check to pay check. Either way married or not married the end result usually the same. Since there a child involved mean you got still pay child support and if you want visitation rights you will need to go to court. It's when you both have built something together like buying a home new cars and etc. Plus savings money. That can get you either way at this point. If you with her out of convenience and still thinking might find another love better love. And that the reason you not want get married. Well then best stay broke with no assists. And hope she will allow you a clean break. But if you truly love her and your child then get married.