Soon, our daughter turns 6 years old, and we have no other major problems with her (and the problem is not the biggest on Earth, but it still exists). But for special occasions (like some birthdays, parties, Christmas-New Year, photographies or sometimes when we go out to eat at some restaurants), we want her to be dressed up. This includes her being required to wear some better looking-clothes than during ordinary days. Usually, she has her to wear a white blouse and a black skirt, sometimes even a waistcoat (once we tried to replace the skirt with trousers, and keep the blouse as we thought it would work to give her a little bit influence, but still under our control. Once I also allowed her to wear a sweater if she wore a blosue under, showing the collar and arms of the blouse but she only accepted the sweater. But nothing of this looked good, so we went back to the white blouse and black skirt policty).
But she doesn't like being dressed up, and the problem is when she tries to refuse, and it takes time to get her put those clothes on because of this. She finally does it, but then she complains.
This is just for special occasions, and we tell her everybody sometimes have to do things they don't like. We've told her we think it's important that she looks good even in clothing for special occasions.
She just answers she hates it and it's un-comfort (they're not very tight-fitting, just a belt around the skirt, but it definitely doesn't hurt) and even if it's not so comfort as jeans, t-shirt, sweater or sweatpants, but as I said it's far from every day. Sometimes, she even put the blouse outside the skirt, which we don't accept and immediately tell her not to wear.
I know she doesn't like clothes like blouses and skirts, but I want her to understand she need to be dressed up sometimes. Shall I raise my voice or how do I tell her the best?
Do any other here have any experiences of similair events (both as a child or as a parent)?
What does your neices and daughter wear with the skirt? A blouse?
First of all, we're not going to end the "fight" and wait a year, maybe she would understand better, but I've heard of similar problems like this with teenage daughters. Better teach her now.
Then, we're not going to remove the belt. It supports the skirt and also easier keeps her blouse inside the skirt (it would be the same with trousers) so I don't rally understand what you mean?
Also, we will definitely keep the blouse as it is. Maybe we can remove the waistcoat (which we have already done often). And we are not going to replace the skirt with trousers again, as it didn't help and we thinks she looks better in a blouse and a skirt than in a blouse and trousers.
What we want is to know is how we can tell her to dress up for the special occasions without complaining? I can tell you one thing. We usually tell her the day before that she's going to be dressed up tomorrow. She uses to promise us to do it, but when it's time she starts to complain again.