What kind of abuse is this?

What difference is it going to make knowing what kind of abuse to call it? Apparently you are unfamiliar with abuse of any kind and have had no other relationships to compare it with. It took you 2 years to finally realize something was wrong.

So knowing what to call it isn't going to change anything. Your problem is going to be not falling for it again and being so naive you don't recognize any of the signs.

Unfortunately, many woman are as psychologically disturbed as the men who abuse them and they keep getting back together with their abuser or refusing to file charges if the police have been called. Abusers are highly manipulative and controlling and they will go to any lengths to get control again. Sweet words, gifts, using friends and family to plead his case and in the event that doesn't work threats of harm against her or her children or her family or friends.

The abuser will ALWAYS promise to never do it again...until he does it again. Then the cycle repeats. Time after time after time.

You say you are having flashbacks and are afraid to be with a man. Why is that a surprise, you said it was only 2 weeks ago you left the relationship. And this shows just how naive you are. Until you get therapy and understand about abuse and why you thought that kind of treatment was acceptable and stayed in it, you are in no condition to be dating or in another relationship.

You need to talk to a professional.
REACH’s hotline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Call 1-800-899-4000 to speak with a trained advocate who will listen without judgment

"1. Physical
This is the type of abuse that many people think of when they hear the word ‘abuse.’ It can include punching, hitting, slapping, kicking, strangling, or physically restraining a partner against their will. It can also include driving recklessly or invading someone’s physical space, and in any other way making someone feel physically unsafe.

2. Sexual
While sexual abuse can be a form of physical abuse, we put it in a category by itself because it can include both physical and non-physical components. It can involve rape or other forced sexual acts, or withholding or using sex as a weapon. An abusive partner might also use sex as a means to judge their partner and assign a value – in other words, criticizing or saying that someone isn’t good enough at sex, OR that sex is the only thing they’re good for.

3. Verbal/Emotional
Using words like weapons. Physical abuse doesnt have to be involved Although ultimately the abuser usually relies on both. However, the verbally abused woman usually comes to believe she is worthless, stupid, ugly, etc. and that no one would ever want her. Other survivors have pointed out that while the signs of physical abuse might be noticeable to a friend or family member, the effects of verbal/emotional abuse are harder to spot, and harder to prove. Emotional scars can often take longer to heal.

4. Mental/Psychological
Mental or psychological abuse happens when one partner, through a series of actions or words, wears away at the other’s sense of mental wellbeing and health. It often involves making the victim doubt their own sanity. The result of this, especially over a sustained period of time – and often with the isolation that abusers also tend to use – is that the victim depends on the abuser more and more because they don’t trust their own judgment. They also hesitate to tell anyone about the abuse they’re experiencing, for fear they won’t be believed.

5. Financial/Economic
Because abuse is about power and control, an abuser will use any means necessary to maintain that control, and often that includes finances. Whether it is controlling all of the budgeting in the household and not letting the survivor have access to their own bank accounts or spending money, or opening credit cards and running up debts in the survivor’s name, or simply not letting the survivor have a job and earn their own money, this type of abuse is often a big reason why someone is unable to leave an abusive relationship."