I have been experiencing problems regarding my relationship with my mum I seek attention from her by doing various things such as saying "no" to questions when I really mean and want to say "yes" when it backfires and I continue t ignore her this is when it becomes awful she gets angry with me and then ignores and hates me, this is when I seek her attention and then regret what I did and want to fight to get her back. I can`t take it when she is against me even though this scenario happens almost daily I still continue to do it and don`t understand why. When this happens I can`t deal with it, I become angry, really upset and control myself or deal with the situation. She thinks I have something seriously wrong with me and need to get professional help as my behaviour is beyond "not normal" what it wrong with me and what should I do?????
What is wrong with me??
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- 3+ months ago by emaz
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- attention, seek, mum, relationship, problem, relationships
Answers (4)
What u should do instead of the heartache u obviously feel. Is to go over and give her a hug and a kiss and tell her u love her so much and that u r sorry for the way u have acted. She loves u and will always be there for u anytime of any day that is a momms love. She could be ur bessttist friend if u would let her in i promise u .. get the nerve dont hesitate or think bout it just get up right now and go do it.
you need to stop doing this behavior to your mom she should be the most important value in your life I would see about getting a therapist to help you with your problems and guide you to possible changes and you'll heal with mabe a better out look it can also mend your relationship with your mom
Without going into all of the detail, my mother and I had a very complicated relationship. While there are many things that don't fit your question in my scenario, when I was younger I used to engage in this same type of behavior.
I think that your mother suggesting professional help may be said in anger but I do think it's something that you should do. I say this because after I sought help, it was found out that I am severely bi-polar and suffer from chronic anxiety, panic, and depression.
I am not saying that you are these things, but there could be something wrong. A mood disorder can severely affect your moods, make you react in ways you don't want to, and really affect your mind and make you make decisions that are harmful to yourself, to others, or your relationship with others.
The good news is, that there is help. Just because you go to someone for help, please don't assume they are just going to put you on a bunch of medication and send you on your way. If they do this, they are not the person you should be seeing. There may be medication, but they are also going to help you understand what is going on with you. You mother and you can also enter counseling together to help communicate better and build a healthy and loving relationship.
I'm begging you to seriously consider this because I didn't seek help until I was 35 years old. And unfortunately, I lost my mother to suicide (she was also mentally ill) before we could begin to build that healthy relationship.
Hi man, well you better seek professional help. Do some yoga as well (I know it sucks but try it) it helps you relax and control yourself. One other method which I find the best, is go outside and do something that will challenge your body. Hit the gym, run outside until you're done. Do this for a couple of days help you to control yourself and your day. Remember that your mother loves you always no matter what and if she is getting angry at you it means she's scared about you and want you to be the best version of yourself. Also think before you answer your questions mate. Hope this helps.