I started my new job about a month ago. There is this guy (who is part of management) that is not shy about making it clear that he just can t stand me. At first I thought I was being paranoid about but it all became apparent.he would look away when talking to me(starring at irrelevant objects or another female standing by), kind of roll his eyes and swears when passing or greeting me, snatch things out of my hand when giving them to him. everyone I asked about him said he is the kindest person they know. So I tried to remember if I had met him prior but nope, perhaps in a previous life time. since the very sight of me seems to piss him off, I would avoid him whenever I could. and lately, he started being nice to me, he would honestly ask me throughout the day how I am coming along with my assigned responsibilities, he would go out of his way to help me when needed, pass by often, stands closer when talking, looking at me with eye contact( as if he was actually listening and interested in the conversation), and even smiles when we greet. i didn't know how to behave with him, his nicer acts are getting to me but i m still a little scared of him which made things a little awkward. then about a week ago mr. guy gave in his resignation letter and said he is quitting his job. Just what is going on in his head?!!?
What is going on in his head?
Added 3+ months ago:
I'm going a little crazy figuring him out. Why does he dislike me? Does he hate so much that he rather change his job than having to look at me at all? Does he have feelings for me? If yes, why is he leaving? Am I over thinking?
Answers (2)
To answer your last question, I think so.
You've been at the office for a month - that's the bottom tier in terms of respect, especially in the civilian corporate world, and in a manager-subordinate relationship. If he's quitting, it's more likely to be over some actual work related issue, than how he feels towards his secretary (I presume), such as being sick of his job or a better opportunity opening up. He wouldn't get to such a position were he so affected by such trifles (or at least, the first course of action would be firing you).