What does it mean if your ex says they love you but they want to be friends until they find myself?

let's start with the word EX. you were in a previous relationship that wasn't working. he/she is confused. now, ask yourself this. what if there search ends without you in the picture. it's unfair that he/she is asking you to wait for them. I would not consider this love. he/she should allow you to find yourself.

Most often this is there way of being nice, they still have feelings for u, but want to keep looking, but also want to keep u on a string in case of emergency. If they go thru a bad relationship, than they will come back to u for reassurance that they deserve love. But than will probably do the same thing again. Its really not fair to u, but if u love her u can just leave the door open and have a little fun untill they need u again...