Okay, i'm shy! I can't go to parties, can't interact with people and can't even look at my crush! I need to know how to not be shy! Please tell me a way to not be so shy? I'm trying out for cheer leading so maybe that will help. I'm in fifth grade and I don't want to be anti-social when i grow up! Thanks!
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I used to be shy too. It's a difficult thing to deal with. Often, though, it comes from a lack of confidence or the feeling everybody is noticing us (they're really not). The more you push yourself into social situations, the more confidence you'll gain (even though it'll be difficult at first).
i used to be shy to wen i came 2 my new school so i just went and got in a clik and in the past 4 years one of my friends is still my friend all the others moved just dont be afraid most people say believe in u's self but u should actually believein God he can get u thru anything trust me im only in 7 th grade and i have a lot of experience
Aw, I used to be pretty shy too! Don't worry about it - it's not just you who's shy. I bet that there's a lot of "confident" people that you know who are actually really shy. They've gotten over their shyness by acting confident when they're actually shaking with fear - if you act confident, no one will notice if you're feeling nervous/shy. Also: belive in yourself. If you don't belive in yourself, then no-one else will either!
Good luck, this worked for me - I hope it works for you too :)
Being shy has a lot of hidden positives in it. But it can also be a pain in the but at times! I completely understand considering the fact that I'm extremely shy too. People can be shy for different reasons. If you're like me and have severe anxiety of a different disorder, thinking of funny memories you've had can certainly help. For example, I always think of a funny TV show I've watched in the past month.
Now, some people are just shy but don't necessarily have a disorder. Try practicing what you're going to say to people in the mirror, to a stuffed animal, or even just in your head. Maybe change your style of clothing a little, don't stand out too much but maybe where a few bright colors. Also, this can be very hard but if possible, take a deep breath and walk up to a stranger who seems pretty close to your age and introduce yourself. Trying talking to them and then find an excuse and walk away. They'll either like you or dislike you, but none the less they'll probably have a standard of respect for you.