My dad and step mum fight all the time and because my step mum was there for me when I was upset and she helped me she has made me think of her as my real mum. But now they are fighting and they both go on about their pet hates to me and they both say they are going to pack up and leave but hasn't happened yet and they both want me to take their sides. I don't know who to choose. My dad hardly respects the fact that I have my own life and want to do something in life without making it a big deal. But my step mum she listens to everything. But the problem is I don't know what to think or do. They want me on one side, but I can't choose or think straight. It's confusing. I need answers that will help me. What would you do?
Answers (2)
If they want you to take sides, just tell them that they're both acting ridiculous! They shouldn't be making you take sides like this! It's crazy. So just let them know you dont want to take sides. That would put some stress on you, and should give your parents a reason to make up. It usually does.
My parents never fought physically, but I think verbally is as horrible. Now, why do parents fight? Do they not get along with each other, but then why are they still together? I am sure that each indivdual is different from others, it is understandable that a couple will have different opinions about different things. I usually find my parents have verbal fights about my father's family.
do you try to stop them?
I would say I never stop my parents from fighting, cause I don't think I can, even if it wasn't just a verbal fight, I wouldn't be able to stop it.
How often do they fight?
My parents on average will verbally fight with each other once a month.
how do you feel when you see your parents fight?
When I see this, I think it is horrible, but then when you really think about it, who doesn't fight? I mean, I fight with my sister, verbally, and when we were younger, physically as well.
do you get mad? cry? storm out? slam your door? get in the fight?
Unless someone really enjoys watching people "fight", otherwise they would not like to see people fighting with each other. I would not get into other people's fights because they have their own ways of solving problems. Whether their methods are correct or not, it is not up to the observer to decide.
does your dad hit your mom or does you mom hit your dad
I would say, my dad is the one with all the talking in a fight, and my mom is more silent, and passive.
I try to stay out of it but I happen to just try to break up the fight but then one would leave and the other would turn onto me saying how it's none of my business and I should stay out of it but I can't because my older sister stays quiet and my younger siblings look up to me and they are scared. I get scare but I don't know what to do. they fight everyday over stupid things from one commit that makes an argument.