Today one of the things he did was pushed me on my bed and forced me to tell him about my doctor's appointment and i didn't want too. another thing he did today is we were out for lunch and my mums phone was ringing so i answered it so he just was being rude about it. he raised his voice at me and said "don't ever answer anyone's phone ever again" or something along those lines. i felt like he been a bit of a dick head because it wasn't what he said it was the way he said it he said it like a snob. this is just one example he does things like this all the time and i have told my mum she doesn't care. I am just asking if anyone has been in the same situation and what the have done and how to cope with it?
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* phone: Unless your mom asks you to answer her phone for her or she is expecting a vitally important call such as a job offer you should not answer her phone. If it is important, they will leave a message when it goes into voicemail.
* push on the bed: Ok THIS is the one you should be raising holy hell about and stop whining about the phone. This one sounds creepy and you best put your foot down about this. It's the one that is not acceptable. There should NO: *touching; *pushing; *being in the same bedroom with you; *ever being on a bed with you for any reason let alone pushing you there; *requiring you to tell him anything let alone personal.
What he did was inexcusable. He is not your father or your step-father either of which would maybe give them the right to at least ask about a doctors appointment but none of the rest of it. As a boyfriend he has absolutely no right to to tell you what to do and the bedroom incident is reportable.
I think you need to have a private time chat with mom to discuss that issue. Choose your battles wisely. Do not carp and complain about little things and no name calling. Talk to mom in your most mature logical tone. Bedroom issues are where you need to make it clear that that will never be tolerated and if he does it again you'll report it. It's up to her to tell him to keep his hands to himself and stay out of any bedroom with you.
Good luck!
* phone: Unless your mom asks you to answer her phone for her or she is expecting a vitally important call such as a job offer you should not answer her phone. If it is important, they will leave a message when it goes into voicemail.
* push on the bed: Ok THIS is the one you should be raising holy hell about and stop whining about the phone. This one sounds creepy and you best put your foot down about this. It's the one that is not acceptable. There should NO: *touching; *pushing; *being in the same bedroom with you; *ever being on a bed with you for any reason let alone pushing you there; *requiring you to tell him anything let alone personal.
What he did was inexcusable. He is not your father or your step-father either of which would maybe give them the right to at least ask about a doctors appointment but none of the rest of it. As a boyfriend he has absolutely no right to to tell you what to do and the bedroom incident is reportable.
I think you need to have a private time chat with mom to discuss that issue. Choose your battles wisely. Do not carp and complain about little things and no name calling. Talk to mom in your most mature logical tone. Bedroom issues are where you need to make it clear that that will never be tolerated and if he does it again you'll report it. It's up to her to tell him to keep his hands to himself and stay out of any bedroom with you.
Good luck!
thank you so much :) i will try talk to my mum