I'm in a, what feels like, a loveless relationship with someone I'm losing interest in, been 3 years we're together, it has been a rocky one, we have two kids, weren't exactly planned, not the way I wanted to have kids. It's been like this for a while, it feels as if I don't belong with her, even the "physical aspect" of our relationship, it doesn't feel right, I don't get it.
I've been down in the dumps lately until I had a new job opportunity, which I took straight away, with a major perk, a girl who works there has sparked my interests, upon further conversing, turns out we have more in common than anyone I have ever met, I've never felt anyway than I have with any girl in the world. She has it all, looks, intelligence, wit, common sense, and a sense of humour that can only be described as if I'm looking in the mirror. I have known her a week and already feel as if there is a massive connection between us, I'd feel stupid if I told her all this, but I mean, what am I to do?!
I'd talk to my friends, but I don't want anyone knowing to be honest, any advice would be great right now.
Hey, hey. You can't do that to your kids, though. Faking a love, creating an illusion, and _lying_ to your kids, completely _forgetting your_ happiness? No. That'll effect/affect the kids as much as him. If he's not happy, he needs to either try and work things out and fix it, or leave her love-wise and fix it. He doesn't have to literally _leave_ her and his kids, but just leave her relationship-wise. He can be there and love his kids and he probably would and is now. He can be there and support the mother of his kids and she can support him. But, kid, _don't_ be with someone you don't love. The kids also need to want what's best for their parents. Imagine how the girl feels since you won't think about him! Would she want him pretending to love her? Imagine what she'd feel when she found out he was faking it the whole time. There. Now, with both parents distressed, it'll effect/affect the kids more. They need to be open about loving mommy and daddy and let it be normal for them not to love each other in that way anymore.