To go into detail, you've always thought everything has some type meaning, yet it turns out that you're the one who can't see the meaning with anything concerning yourself. Nothing seems to have any meaning, just one experience after another with nothing gained, when you've been the one to try to find meaning in everything. Another example is, I'm short. Before I became an adult, I was told by most that I was going to be tall, no complaints. I'm only explaining. I'm thirty-one, and I'm far from it. I'm the extreme opposite. You have multiple things in common with someone you know of who, odds are, would not want you in return, and for the person to not be an option anyway for whatever reason. What I mean by know of is that you don't personally know them, yet you have been able to learn things about them via others. At any rate, they would never be an option, let's say you know for a fact, in addition to them, odds are, not wanting you. Why then would you have everything in common with them? Basically, nothing makes sense. Everything is contradictory. Everything that seems that it should have meaning, due to its nature when it comes me, means nothing. What seems like it should mean something due to odds, or likelihood means nothing, or the opposite when it comes to me. Why is irony a theme with me, or what do you think when it's a theme in general. I don't know if this is philosophical, and/or spiritual, but why is it a pattern?
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These aren't examples of what I'd call "ironic". I think, because the textbook definition of "fate defying expectation" implies objectively low odds, and assigned special meaning (to distinguish from fortuity).
Parents always tell their children they'll grow up tall, probably to not make them feel bad about their stature when picked on. In reality, you've roughly 50% chance to be either below or above the average (or your parents), and it doesn't really matter unless coupled with an 'unexpected' situation; for example, a pole vaulter or leader (expected to be above all others, not needed these days, has a related trope). Almost everybody needs a job so you find all sorts of people.
The "one sided affection" is a known and global issue. The explanation is that one tends to want what they cannot have. Forsooth, you might be putting yourself down prematurely; you haven't actually tried your luck with this particular person. It's true that it's difficult to find a deeper connection with anyone (moreso with age), but only impossible when shutting everyone out.
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The reason that somebody is experiencing many ironic situations is only one: it is because of past actions, past Karma. It is a universal law. Why are there so many thorns appearing in your garden? It is because of what you have planted. Why are there are so many fruits, so many apples, so many mangoes in somebody else’s garden? It is because of the seeds they have planted. Just as the fruits on the tree depend on the seeds, our destiny depends on our deeds. The world operates through universal laws, the Law of Gravity, the Law of Cycles - everything in this world is running through universal laws. One such law is the Law of Karma. It states: as you sow, so shall you reap; what you do, comes back to you. So if something is happening in our life, we must learn to accept it, it is the result of our own past actions, may be of this life or even before.