One of my best guy friends has a disease caused by stress and every night he is constantly in pain, when his mind gives up, his body does. Myself and my best girl friend have tried to tell him not to give up, because he has always been there for us, and we don't know what we would do without him. His doctor has told him there might be a treatment, but he said it will make him agressive and arguementative. Also it will cause him so much pain that he might give up. So he's taking the treatment, so he only has about 2 weeks left. He has helped me and my friends through every problem and he's always been there for us. When any of us were crying, he's be the first there to give us a hug and tell us it'll be ok. He doesn't deserve to die! He won't live to know true love, he won't be there at mine or my best friend's wedding, ot his own. I don't know if i can go without him, he's just so amazing. He hasn't come to school today, he told one of my other guy friend to tell our group that he loves us. What can i do? Myself and my girl friends have been crying nearly all morning! He can't give up, but he is. he's told us that he'll always watch over us and always be with us. But we need him WITH us. How can i go on without him?
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Sad to hear your story and sorry for that. Just cherish all memories all of you had and what you will have. Express him that you love him so much and that you will never forget him. Know his last wishes and try to fulfill it if you can at the best you can do. Also, don't lose hope. The Bible says at John 5:28,29: "Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment." So there's a chance that you might see him again in a paradise earth (Isaiah 11:6, 2 Peter 3:13, Revelations 21:4)
Well, if he lives, that's the way it's supposed to be. If he dies, you can turn to many different places to find joy again. I try not to be religious about answering questions, but I believe in an afterlife. I believe that your friend will have a chance to get married when the Millennium comes to pass (it's when Jesus comes and resurrects all the moderately good people and Satan has no hold on anyone anymore [no more urge to sin]). If you need to ask anymore questions about this to me or anyone of my faith, it's called the LDS religion (Mormonism), please don't hesitate. "I will not leave you comfortless, I will come to you." -John 14:18 Hope I helped(:
when your in so much pain it reaches to ones depth and control he needs to take supplements mabe drink some smoothies protein shakes theres really work lots of pudding jellos mabe someone could go to his treatments with him give some support walking is good to have to be stronger then this disease is
Death is certain. When it will happen is uncertain.
As a doctor he/she will ease the physical pain.
As a friend the least you could do is to ease the mental pain.
Crying, worry, sad, etc. generate negative emotion energy while calm,serenity, peaceful, etc generate positive energy to him/her.
Like pole attracts, so when you are with him/her try vibrating positive energy - sing an encouraging soft song/hymn, touch him/her with assuring warmth, surround him/her with peaceful and serene atmosphere and soon he will be engulf with the sense of being alive.