I met this wonderful woman. She is 40 and has 18years old twins. She has been with her husband for 19 years. Most of her relationship has been really bad, as she told me. She has tried to leave him but has been unable for many reasons, the strongest one, to be alone with her kids.
When we met she told me about her problems and that she was planing to leave her husband. That is why I accepted to start a relationship with her. She has always denied we are lovers, because she says she is leaving him.
Well everything has been great until las Saturday. She finally got an apartment and now she is facing the reality: she is about to leave the place she has been for the last 19 years. Since that day she asked that she wants a space between us as she needs it. She acts very cold with me when she was actually the sweetest woman I have ever met.
She tells me about her new place, the rules she has to follow but when it comes when she will move in, she says she doesn't know and avoids the subject. She paid already two months in advance ans seems very serious about it.
Now my question is how should I act as I have ever been in a relationship like that, as lovers, and moving to the step she is willing to do? She is moving out of her marriage, not only for me, but that helped her. Her husband told her that he doesn't love her and is ok if she wants to leave but she is the one who has to leave. The kids are ok with it but she blames herself because of the decision she took. She ask me for a space and I will give it to her, but I don't want to lose her. I did put pressure on her and told her she had to take a fast decision, my mistake.
She tells me she loves me but in a very cold way.
We are lovers and I want something serious with her, how should I act?
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- 3+ months ago by crivasmon...
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Well she did said she wanted to move but i think she never mention u as to move With her, let her get her space she probably was jus looking for some one when she was down, or probably she has some one else who knows but what ever it is, if it's urs she will let chu know if she wants u. Jus make sure u stay close but not suffocating her jus close enough to see if she sees u as part of her life, wait a month or two if u see she dosnt mention anything to u well than ask her what she want from that "relationship" by the way what's ur age, well I hope it helps and it works for the best, I will be more than happy to help u again jus vote if it help thanks.
I am 38. She sent me a letter, she told me she couldn't tell me personally cause she was not emotionally fit for that. She tells me to give her some space while she separates and to please wait for her. She tells me that all the things she told me she still feels them very hard in her heart (get divorce and seek a life with me). She just needs to solve and sort her things alone and with me by her side she will not be able, she needs to do them by herself.
I just don't want to make any mistake. Should I be there but not too close. I know this is a process which will take some time. She already rented a place but is not ready to move in, she told me it is going to take her a while to do it. She needs her space alone.
Some times I wonder too much and I know my negative energy may cause her to be afraid. I have been so stupid to think that this could be a nice way to end our relationship, but she proves me wrong with little messages she sends me.
I just need advice on how to handle the space she asked me. Thank you for your comments.