When I cut my 16 daughters hair she cried for about 2 weeks it usto be a little past the bottom of her cheast and now its a little below shoulder lengh when I told people she cried tthey said she was being imature. And acting like a baby because it was only hair but she sto love her aperance and now he hates it why ???? Was she acting folish? Why dose it mean so much to her ?
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a teenager cares about their appearance sometimes because of the friends she hangs with so if you think about teenagers look at their appearance as part of themselves this kind of thing enables other kids to make fun of her and talk bad about the person who altered their appearance mentally as well as physically this makes one either except or reject it because someone else doesn't like it so theses kids start to make fun of the way she looks this can be devastating to a teenager or anybody else people that have to endure this stuff have a big problem
I do know women whose body image seems to be very, very closely tied to their hair (mostly very young ones). For those it would be absolutely horrible,
Its not the cut
it's the humiliation. Whenever you take something that normal a person has control over and take that control away, it's a punishment. Normally, we control how our hair looks. I just got a pretty drastic haircut (and inadvertently discovered I have curly hair! :eek: ), and I'm pretty happy with it. But if someone had done it forcibly, I would have been very, very upset.
I take it your daughter didn't want you to cut it, so why did you?
She is 16, not 6, shouldn't she get a say on her appearance?
If your daughter told you to sit down so she could cut your hair any way she chose without consulting you, would you let her?
I cannot believe your response to this and I cannot believe your behavior either.
Why did you chop so much off?
How did you not realize that this would hurt your daughter before you did it?
Unbelievable!
You should let her grow it out again
If your daughter gets a bad mark in something, cutting her hair against her will is not a good way to punish her. Probably better to try encouraging her to get better marks next time or looking into educational help for her than resorting into physicality.
Its not unbeliveable. And I didn't think it would hurt her because its only hair. Also I didn't cut it I paid a hair dresser to cut so diffrent My daughter didn't want that much cut she thought we were only cutting off an inch but I decided to do more. I cut it because she got a bad mark and she needed to be punnished. Also she had split ends that had to be cut. Off she is stilll mad at me and hasent forgiven me saying "I hate having short hair " "this isn't fair and why did you do this. To me" its been 5 months and her hair is probably above her cheast and she wants to grow it out again she is also refusing to let me tak her to get it trimmed