Ok so here's what happened: I had a budgie (some people might know them as parakeets), it was great. But after a while (I'm talking ages and ages, not just a few months) I was going through this rough patch where I had heaps of homework and stress and was really preoccupied most of the time, so sometimes I didn't get round to cleaning the cage (which was outside so most of the poop fell on the grass anyway, or I'd go to feed them only to find that mum had already done it. Anyway, mum and dad gave the budgie to some really close family friends. I'm over all that drama now, and I REALLY want my budgie back. I'm pretty sure our friends will let me have it back but how do I convince mum and dad to let me get it back? I still have the cage and stuff from before, and I know where I can put the cage and everything else. Any help would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance guys!
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How selfish! You are not taking into consideration the budgie's feelings at all! They bond with their owners, they become used to a routine and used to the people who talk to them and play with them. It doesn't know you any more. You want to pull the budgie out of its home and routine for your benefit without any thought to what the budgie needs. That was your problem to begin with. You gave no considerstion to what the budgie needed. I'm pretty sure your stress and pressure of life didn't cause you to forget to feed yourself but it sure made you forget a bird whose life depended on you.
There is no freaking excuse to fail an animal who depends on you. When you take on the responsibility, that promise of care doesn't mean I'll feed you when I don't have something else to do. I'll clean your dirty smelly cage if I remember you outside suffering. It means daily, no matter what else you have going on, you take care of that living animal FIRST.
The current owner is not your bird's babysitter until you get your head out of the clouds.
Get another bird and this time for heavens sake understand what it means for an animal to survive or die because of you. There are NO EXCUSES.
Ginger - Concern for the bird was mircat's priority, not mere slander. Since you only mentioned homework in the post, seemed reasonable to assume the stress is the garden variety experienced globally by modern day adults, and nigh everywhere taken for granted. E.g a friend having to accompany his kid to hospital weekly in addition to full time + ot job, plus other stuff, he'd refer to as routine.
How is your sister doing now? Is she safe, for sure? This sort of thing tends to stick.
Have your parents been informed of their condition? If they haven't (and they very well should), that'd likely skew their view of the situation similarly. Nobody's born responsible, one must learn from their failures. Sometimes that means to delegate, get help, or better time management, refusing to let the schedule push out high priority tasks (neglecting your own sustenance for instance, I disavow any non life threatening situation taking precedence). You cannot control the quantity of stress thrust upon you directly, you can only control how you react to it, which balls you let drop. Try to juggle them all in silence and when the rhythm breaks everything collapses.
Thanks FauxPas. I kind of realised that not long after I posted that and then had to wait to get back online again. Mircat, I apologise. I'm really sorry, and you're right, there wasn't much of an excuse, but I was having a lot of trouble dealing with stuff. I hope you can forgive me.
FauxPas, my sister is ok now. I'll bring it up to my parents that I was under pressure then, and see what they say.
Sorry again. I feel really bad now. Sorry.
Oi, it's okay, miss, merely a misunderstanding. Reasonable to feel offended when attacked too. Doesn't seem like miri reads comments anyway.
Glad she's feeling better. Pray keep an eye out for her. Good luck with your folks. If any advice or venting is needed, feel free to ask.
Oi, it's okay, miss, merely a misunderstanding. Reasonable to feel offended when attacked too. Doesn't seem like miri reads comments anyway.
Glad she's feeling better. Pray keep an eye out for her. Good luck with your folks. If any advice or venting is needed, feel free to ask.
Excuse you! I asked this question looking for helpful answers, not people being a-holes telling me what I did wrong. I know what I did wrong ok? The bird does still know me as I visit to talk and play with it often.
And my 'problem to begin with' and what you said about being pretty sure my stress and stuff didn't make me forget to feed myself? The thing that caused my stress was my sister trying to kill herself and me dealing with some mental health stuff. And yes, that did make me forget to eat sometimes.
It wasn't that I didn't care about the budgie, and I don't need you making me feel worse than I already do. So unless you have a helpful answer, go and be an a-hole elsewhere, as I don't have the time or patience for you