My husband and I have been married a year. When we got married we were both virgins. On our honeymoon night we tried for several hours to have sex. We were unsuccessful because I ended up throwing up I was so upset. Since then my husband thinks we are having sex, however he is just sliding on the outside of my vagina and not actually going in. He doesn't have anything to compare it to so he doesn't realize it. Is this behavior normal. How can I have sex. When he accidentally slips in it feels like its ripping me inside and I end up crying and getting nauseous. Could I have vaginismus? How do I over come my fear or should we just keep having fake sex. Should I tell him the truth? Is what I'm going through normal? I have never heard of anyone having this problem. I also cannot use a tampon and have never been fingered.
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hi don feel. everything ll goes normally. i think ur hubby is regret a lot for this. no props. make ur vagina big 1st by inserting his fingers by a order. 1st one finger, then 2, 3,4. max if 4 fiingers inserted , then u ll get a lot of space. then tel him to insert his penis. u ll b okay. 1st it ll pain. then it ll come as pleasure. Keep sex a day twice or thrice at initial untill ur vagina makes as big.
I'm very sorry 2 hear of yr dilemna. On
Honeymoon would have magnified it.
You need to confront yr hubby +have a
honest chat about sex.
It concerns me that you are unable to
use tampons-you would be wise to seek
professional advice -dr . It may/may not
be what you think.
Whatever happens -it can be helped.
Be yrself -"To thine self be true!"
Don't settle !!
Good Luck !!
