I am the stepmother to be. The ex has full custody. I made my fiancé demand we see them more and the grandparents are only allowed to drive them to and from there houses nothing fun, no eating out. The kids love them and the ex wife lets them babysit instead of letting them come here more. We pay so much in custody and I feel it is sneaky to let them do fun stuff with them instead of letting them bond with us. They don't follow my rules or the vegan diet I put the kids on.

They bring them back late. They don't apply sunscreen enough.They let their older son who is over forty and still lives at home drive the kids around. You should see the way he parks the car.They let them get dirty and don't follow my rulebook.
I am prepared to take the ex wife and the grandparents to court. My fiancé is taking my side on the matter.