So there's this one girl that I like and get to see about every other weekend, and I've been wanting to ask her out for a while now as well. The thing is, she's always been telling me about how her last relationship went badly and even said "I hate relationships" the other day. I don't want to force a relationship onto her, or make her feel uncomfortable (b/c she's a shy person), but at the same time, I also want to let her know how I feel before it's too late. What's the best way to handle the situation?
Telling a girl who isn't sure about relationships you like her?
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- 3+ months ago by carlosgil...
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just tell her you aren't like her past relationship and you don't want to make her uncomfortable but you want to show her that your just fun to be around and you would like her to give you a chance your not out to hurt her you want to be there for her give you a chance to show her your not like her last relationship
Being like how she is myself I might be of some assistance. First don't tell her your not like other guys, it doesn't help, it actually kinda freaks us out. Be straight forward, show her you like/love her. When a relationship goes badly it's because they aren't meant for each other ( I know I'm a little cheesy haha). Go slow, give her time, and make sure she's okay with everything that's happening. Don't do whatever that last guy did to scare her. Show her that you care and that you wanna listen to her, that you wanna be around her, and that your proud of her, not embarrassed in anyway. I hope this helped a little.
The truth is, she doesn't hate relationships, she hates the way her last ones turned out. She's bitter because someone did her wrong. And-that's fair! we all have baggage, its the person that helps us un-pack who is worth it.
My advice is to tell her how you feel, be open, tell her you understand that she's been hurt, and her view on relationships might be crappy, but that you just want the opportunity to give that view something different and create a new path for a great relationship!!
With girls its simple, they either like you and see the opportunity, or don't. If you're honest with her, and she still cant move forward, that's on her. and as hard as it might be, you don't want to be with someone who wont give you (who I assume is a great person) a chance and will always hold on to the past, when you can give her an amazing future!!
All the best !!
Ok, as the girl in this situation, you really should just work on the friendship. Show her you care, but you might freak her out if your not very careful about your timing. I'm not saying hide your feelings, I'm saying show your feelings but be respectful. Timing is key, I don't know her so I couldn't tell you when the right time would be, but this will go down hill really fast if you time it wrong.
Work on the friendship!!!! Show her you care through that. Tell her you love her by what you do for her. (Yeah, I'm cheesy but people only call things cheesy when they don't want to believe in a simple truth).
Hope this helps!!!
From my experience, when a girl is telling you the terrible things about her past relationships she already considers you just a friend or seriously is not interested in a relationship. She also may not be completely over her past relationship which would explain if or why she may bring the topic up more than once. I would just continue to be there for her and say something later along the lines of "For what it's worth, I think your great, and I can't see any reason your relationship ended badly". Then ask her to do something with you that a couple would typically do together, movies dinner ect.
for starters,show her u is worthy.Be open about it – but do it in the right way.
That’s the key here.ask her out [ Do it at the end of a date! “Hey, I think you’re an attractive woman and I like your style.” Suggest another meeting (might be good to have some cool event planned beforehand: “why don’t you join me on Friday, I’m going to this party?”).First of all, your mindset has to shift from “wanting to become part of somebody else’s life” to “inviting the person to be part of yours”. You’re offering that woman the chance to be part of your (awesome) life because she has earned it by doing/being whatever makes her great.
In doing so, you’re not only giving the person major validation, you’re also leaving it up to them to accept! good luck,go for it