... like some advice here. I met this new friend who immediately became overwhelming and clingy. That's how it started. I tolerated it because he seemed genuine and I did enjoy his company for the most part. After a while I noticed strange things beginning to happen. Finding my mail opened, noticing on a couple occasions that I was being followed. I confided in this friend for support as I grew more and more concerned about the changes in my environment. Then about a year into the friendship I noticed my phone settings had changed and now had his name and data somehow attached to my iPhone. I confronted him gently about it and he was very angry. He said that after all the support he had given me (loaning me money, listening to my concerns about this strange harassment, etc...) that I would have to try harder as a friend. He came into my life immediately after my partner and I broke up, and I was particularly alone at that time, and he became involved in my life like a life preserver. I let this happen and I am to blame, I know. But now I am very scared because even as I've told him many times I only want friendship, he always, in a non-direct way, lets me know he would like a relationship with me. I visited him after several months apart recently and only now after some distance am I beginning to put the pieces together and I am feeling pretty freaked out. I don't know what to do. He has told me many times he has past anger issues and had an instance of stalking someone. He is extremely intelligent, also with technology, and this scares me because I have reason to believe he has access to my phone and emails. Anytime in the past I've talked to friends via phone or email regarding my concerns, he seems to know what I had spoken about. For instance, he will casually say something like "I know my forwardness can be scary, but don't think I'm the one trying to cause you harm." For two years I have been so confused as to why my life has turned upside down. I've suspected everything from organized stalking to someone trying to get back at me for some unknown reason. But now I have reason to believe this is the person behind all of it and I'm terrified. I am so afraid of what he's capable of doing if I end the friendship, because so far as I have seen he is savvy enough to hack my phone and track my locations. Please help! P.S. I am a guy and the "friend" is as well. This can happen to guys too.