... to get off. It bothers us both a lot and I want Him to make me scream not my hand. Can anyone help me out?
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Well just to let you know, "the problem" you guys have it normal,
so dont think your the only one with this "problem"
you guys need to to work it out together, keep on practicing and dont give up to soon,
let him know what you like most and what you dont like
just dont stop,
and keep on having fun
I had a past girlfriend that needed to do the same as you. I'd had other partners who didn't. We would indulge in lots of foreplay, initially verbal and then touching massaging and all the rest before both agreeing it was time for penetration. This particular partner, despite being highly aroused, would still find it necessary to masturbate whilst we were actually copulating in order to reach an orgasm. Despite me thinking that it was my job to bring her to orgasm it didn't overly concern me, or indeed her. Despite this we both agreed that we should try and work through the 'problem'. We agreed that she would not 'touch herself' whilst we were making love. During the following 4 months she did orgasm without the aid of her own hand on a couple of occasions and these were during very long, drawn out, very enjoyable, varied position, sex sessions. I'm unsure, but, I think that maybe she was unconsciously considering 'me' far too much. I.e., if she can assist bringing herself to orgasm, well, I can then cum!! That is just a 'maybe!' Don't see it as a negative. 'Maybe' you do like to masturbate yourself during intercourse. After all it is enjoyable. Ask yourself that question and give yourself an honest answer!!
Some women do need that extra stimulation and can only give that to themselves. Some guys have to do the same kind of thing. They have to withdraw and masturbate themselves before ejaculating. I wouldn't see it as a problem. Try viewing it simply as part of your love making. Be at peace with it and enjoy!!