For starters, I am a 21-year-old lesbian who has been in a relationship for 2 years. It's the first lesbian relationship for both of us. About a year and half ago, both of our parents found out, and forbid us to see one another. My parents eventually relented and allowed me to be "friends" with her. She refuses to even mention my name to her parents when she goes home.

We fit really well together and we love each other. However, it really bugs me whenever she goes home during semester breaks or holidays. We never get to see each other, which is okay because it's like a long-distance relationship. But she starts not feeling connected anymore, and start questioning whether or not she should date guys. She becomes confused and tells me that she doesn't feel like we're a couple at all, just friends.

I know some of this is due to having a secret relationship, but we can't even dream of being really out until after college. My sister is a lesbian and has a relationship which my parents are okay with, but I can't tell them about mine because my girlfriend's parents aren't okay with our relationship. What should I do?