Okay, so, my partner and I recently found out she was pregnant. She said the test wasn t that exact, like the positive line was really dull, but she says she can feel the baby inside her. She will be almost 4 weeks pregnant soon, and we don t know whether we should keep our baby or not, as in, having an abortion or not. We have been discussing this decision for hours and hours and have yet to come to a mutual YES or NO answer. She already has everything worked out to have an abortion, we are just deciding on whether or not we can have our baby. I am 17 and she is 18 and have a strong mutual love for each other. Currently, I do not have a license or a job, but I am currently working on both, and I should have my license by May as it is my birthday. She has both a job and a car, and the avg. minimum wage here is 8.25/hr. We have supportive friends, and hopefully we should have supportive parents once we tell them. Financially, obviously we are not ready, but I think we are physically and mentally. (Correct me if I am wrong) Once I get a job, all of my money will be saved for our newborn baby, who should be arriving around August/September-ish. We both are Seniors in highschool and should be graduating in early June, I believe. We both also have our futures planned out to some extent, but not completely. I just... need help with this.
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You can't feel the baby for many months, the line was blurry? Take another test and be sure. I wonder if the two of you are worrying over nothing.
If she is pregnant you have several weeks to make a decision, think about it.
You say she is all set to have an abortion and is ready to go through with it, but you can't agree, well although you might think it is also up to you the short answer is, it's not.
You can't persuade someone to change their whole life and future, that is their decision.
You say you are "partners", well sometimes partners can't agree what's best for both and one has to make a decision that the other doesn't like. The person who gets to make that choice is the one best qualified to make the judgement, her.
While the decision is ultimately yours and hers I would strongly advise not having the baby just yet .
i'm not saying you can't get a job or your license but since you do not have them yet don't assume that you will get them or make plans on what you may gain in the future .
Don't forget whilst your partner has a job and a car she wont be able to drive after a few months of pregnancy and her work may not pay her during her maternity leave .
Also maybe you guys are a bit young(i know i can't say much) whilst you may be ready physically and mentally ,once the baby is born it will require constant nurture and you won't be able to focus on your own lives very much .