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What are you talking about? "Balance" can mean anything.
You teach a child respect by showing him some. A child is not capable of responsibility until a certain age, so it is pointless to talk about "balance". When the child reaches that age, he is exactly what his parents have made him, especially his mother.
Definition: A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something. (short version)
Some say respect is earned, and in most cases it is. However when a child is born to a family it is only natural for the parents to think that a child should love and respect them.
For a family with a religious background, the Bible says at Ephesians 6:2 “Honor your father and your mother,” is the first command with a promise." Verse 3 says, “That it may go well with you and you may remain a long time on the earth.”
This means it is most beneficial for the child to respect their parents.
However children learn what they live, therefore parents have an obligation to teach their children, by both word and example. (Deuteronomy 6:6,7) says, “These words that I am commanding you today must prove to be on your heart; and you must inculcate them in your sons.”(and daughters)
First, parents need to learn and apply God’s Word themselves, actually coming to love God’s laws. Then they are in a position to apply the second part of the scripture—to “inculcate” God’s laws in their children's hearts by words and actions.
So you see Respect is not automatic. It is harder for parents to give something completely without knowing how to give it, but just as hard for children who will one day become parents to know if they are not given the correct instructions on how to and why it needs to be done.
Please ref: jw.org
We teach what we learn. Kids will mimic parents. They will also defy parents, test parents, push parents to their wits end, etc.... Its a part of life. I dont believe every child is the same, therefore neither can be the expectations. Im a mother of 4. My 2 older were completely different then my 2 younger. They were also raised differently. Not because I wanted it that way but because I was learning myself how to be a parent. The first two I was all about them earning my respect. With the younger two I showed them with respect how to respect, not only themselves but me as well. Privileges need to be earned. Responsibility needs to be earned. Even trust. But respect is something all people should be given unconditionally. I was very lucky with my two younger ones because they were awesome kids. They did everything right as teens and when they became adults, they were treated like adults. Does that mean we didnt have our issues or fights or times when we disrespected each other, hell no we had plenty of them. But respect is what allowed us to acknowledge are mistakes, apologize and forgive. See to me respect is a way of life. Its not selective. Its no based on ur opinion. Either u respect everyone or u respect no one. My kids are still my kids and ya we have our moments but my kids also respect me. Not because they have to but because they want to because they know I respect them. And I wouldnt have it any other way.