Long story you guys, he keeps asking me out saying he wants to get to know me in hopes that it will lead to something great between us. He's 24 (capricorn) and im 19 (scorpio). We've known each other for about 13 years now he messaged me on facebook and gave me his number and told me to call him, he even sent another message the next morning reminding me to call him. When i did contact him he asked me alot of questions about my past boyfriends and what am i looking for in a relationship. In the beginning he would contact me like crazy, every single morning he right there!! Im not going to lie i enjoyed the attention! I never conaacted him however, he always came to me then one day he asked me "Why won't you text/call me?" Then he started to disappear then come back asking why i haven't spoken to him. He kept asking and asking me to spend time with him so i finally said OK when the date comes he doesn't even so much as send me text after all that nonsense about how much he wants/likes me...and nothing was wrong with him i know because when i checked his damn facebk profile he had updated many times thoughout that day that we were suppose to go out. So this is what i did i didn't call, text, or anything. I decided to just delete him from my phone, facebook, and my mind. I figured that everything he said was lies so i kept it moving, if he thought i was gonna come chasing him with a million questions as to why he stood me up he thought WRONG u guys! So (i know i say so alot, lol) 2 weeks later i was cleaning my house then he texts me telling me to come outside because he wants to see me?? I chose not to even reply to him...my thing is this does he like me but he's unsure of if i like him back or is he just another immature player tyring to play with me (not gonna happen) I've been stood up before by guys and trust me they DO NOT ever contact me again, EVER so why did he even bother if he's not into me? It's been 2 weeks since he texted me and I was thinking well maybe he just thinks i don't like him the way he likes me then i thought whatever im going to just leave him behind he's full of it. What do you guys think, and please be polite but honest with me (and no we haven't had sex either)! Am i wrong for NEVER contacting him?? Was he just trying to "test" me or something?
Answers (1)
Honestly, I don't like this guy you are describing. He is at least strange and he doesn't even seem to love you.
I have 2 versions:
1) He is trying to make you have sex with him, looks like a typical strategy to me. First he is very attentive and then he disappears for a while without any apparent reason - you suffer and soften up... (even ask a question on question.com ;)
2) He is trying to impress his friend, maybe it was a bet: first he almost gets it and then decides that you are too hard to crack and disappears. Then he tries again.
I know I sound extremely disappointing but this is my honest opinion.
The best thing for you to do I think would be to find yourself another guy, or two and start flirting with them. Stop wasting you time with this one. If he really is interested in you he will try to win you back. If it is real love there is really little you can do to destroy it. If there was nothing from the very beginning - why should you waste your time?