I still care for him but I stopped talking to him bc he hurt me but never really tried to reach out to see what was wrong. I know it's over between us but it's his birthday today and I don't know if I should be petty or not
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The relationship is toast. I'm not sure who you be petty toward. There is nobody in the picture anymore. There is no significant other, that's history. You do not extend birthday wishes to all former partners.
I think you want to use that as an excuse to reestablish contact to investigate the possibility of a future relationship again. Dont do it!