I love my boyfriend and his company, however i'm embarrassed by his appearance. And the way others look at him. I know this sounds so superficial and i hate myself for it.
Should I stay in relationship if Im embarrassed by my boyfriend?
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- 3+ months ago by Jammingsq...
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- love, boyfriend, stay, relationship, appearance, relationships, embarrassed
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If you really love that person, you wouldn't be embarrassed by the fact that he is your bf. Do you really love him? This is YOUR love life and if you are afraid of what other people think, then you're not brave enough to date anyone. First thing I recommend you to do is to have confidence for what you do. Don't be afraid of what others think! They don't have any rights to judge you and your bf. As long as you guys are happy together, I personally think you guys should be together. But the choice is yours. :)
Hi. I totally understand the decision before you, because that's exactly where I was. I was dating a man who I thought treated me wonderfully, and thought I was being too superficial to leave him because the way he looked embarrassed me. I decided to go ahead and marry him for the person I thought he was on the inside, and followed that advice given to me. But, I'm hear to tell you that I very much regretted that choice. In retrospect, I realized that deep down, I thought I couldn't do any better. I had 3 boys and figured no one else would want to take us on. It really was a huge mistake. You really do need that strong physical attraction, and if the way he looks is embarrassing you, than I think you should reconsider the relationship. For me, it only got worse. First, it was his appearance, then, after we were married, it was his odd behavior too. I realize now that his appearance matches his behavior. He didn't see anything odd about his appearance, just like he didn't see anything odd about his behavior (when the rest of the world did). I realized too, that not only was I overlooking his appearance, but other things that were huge red flags. My advice to you is to set your standards high, and don't settle for less. Know that you do deserve everything you want in a man, including good looks.....a man that you can't wait to introduce to others, and kind of want to show off. I'm not saying you place all of your value on looks, but if something is bothering you, don't ignore it. It may only get worse. And let's face it. Being physically attracted to your partner IS important. I wish you all the best in your choices you have before you.