I live on my own and my best friend is just down the street. I do have some health issues, but I don't think they're serious, at least I hope not. Lately, I've been having some very severe pain come up into my throat. I can feel it coming, so I act immediately with cold water, ant-acid. etc. The attacks are lasting more frequently now to the point where I get scared. My friend has said to me a number of times that if I had to go to hospital, just to call an ambulance, then call her. She never went into details, i.e. she would get in her car & come to my place; meet up with me at the hospital. Last night I had a bad attack. I was talking with her b/f., told him about what happened, & he in turn told my friend. Apparently, she got a little quiet, & he asked her if she was worried. She said.."no, I'm seeing her tomorrow anyway". That somewhat surprised me. She never called last night, nor have I heard from her so far this morning, & it's now 10.06AM.
Yes, we are due to meet up at 1pm,but I'm disappointed at her cavalier attitude.
I'm of the mindset now not to call her if I need to go to hospital. What would be the point? Does she truly care?..I wonder.
So again, my question is...should I now not bother with phoning her?
Should I now not bothering with phoning?
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- 3+ months ago by chatterbox
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- street, hope, friend, down, health, issue, friends, best friend
Answers (2)
"""Again, I haven't heard anything. I'm at the point that I don't want to share these things with her anymore.
I certainly don't want depression setting in; but I feel I'm all alone in my problems."""
You don't exactly let on the full extent of your interaction, but from the sound of things it's very important to you, notwithstanding feeling upset with her attitude occasionally and overthinking the nature of her actions. It's quite possible she's a tad overwhelmed by some things and maintaining distance (such as not wanting to take you to the hospital or converse in the middle of the night), but that doesn't mean she doesn't care about you. Treating her efforts with disdain hurts you the most in the long run. It's up to you, yet I wouldn't advise it.
I met up with my friend this afternoon. She never mentioned anything about what happened to me, not even "how are you"? A little later on I wasn't feeling so good, & she asked, "aren't you feeling very well?". Of course, I wasn't. Yes, I was a little hurt that she never let on., but she is who she is.