I cant sleep at night anymore. I just keep worrying about this. My dad is past retirement and just found a night job close to where I live. He lives about 1.5 hrs away by bus. Also there is no bus to take him home in the morning so my brother has to get up at 2am to get him. The problem is my apt is very small 2 bedroom and I live with my partner and our 4 kids. Our kitchen and living room is basically one big room. Nobody in my family likes the idea since we would have zero privacy and my dad is a controlling person. Im torn between wanting to help my dad and the fact that this is a very uncomfortable and possibly permanent situation for my kids and partner. What do I do?
Should I let my dad move in?
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- 3+ months ago by uncertain1
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- sleep, night, close, past, dad, found, job, retirement
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Daddy is an adult and has a job. He can make decisions for himself. He chose to accept a job with no transportation to get him home and being an enabler doesn't help him. Your brother needs to stop picking him up. Tell daddy to sit on the bench at the bus stop until a bus comes, buy a used car or a motorcycle or take an Uber home but he doesn't get to interrupt everyone's lives because of his choices.
You and I both know a tiny 2 bedroom apartment is not enough room for 4 kids let alone for 7 people! I don't know how daddy manages to guilt trip into getting people up in the middle of the night or losing sleep over his living arrangements but it's time to cut it out. If daddy can't handle the results of his own decision making then he needs to learn to make better decisions. Choosing a job then expecting others to handle his transportation and lodging needs due to that choice is selfish and controlling.
Even thinking about disrupting your kids lives over this makes me wonder why you and brother aren't in therapy to lose the hold daddy has on you at the ages you are.
The answer is tell daddy NO.