I have been living with my bf for 3yrs now. When we first lives together I earnt less than minimum wage as I was an apprentice and he earnt more because he was in sales. Since then we have moved and I have been working for the last 1.5yrs in a very well paid job, earning double his salary. I hate the job but the money is more than I could hope to make anywhere else. Meanwhile, earning so much has meant that I could provide financial security whilst he tried to find a job he likes as he hated sales so much! He has been in and out of various jobs earning varying amounts and leaving for various reasons, usually without another role lined up first (that said, he is a really hard worker when it comes to job hunting, he was never out of work for very long). He has now managed to find a job that he likes, in the field that he wanted. Them money is still half my salary but his incremental pay increases are set in his contract so he will be earning more than me in a few years. I have been struggling with mental health for the last few months (years actually but it is getting much worse lately) to the point that I do not want to stay in my job. I actually work part time evenings and weekends in addition to my real job. The part time work is a job that I love and it lifts me up and fills me with energy, however, the money is not good. The pay is minimum wage and I have been offered a maximum of 25hrs/week so I would be earning about £1000 less each month if I worked there instead. My bf has told me that he would rather I was happy and that he is happy to support me financially, especially since I did the same for him. He is absolutely wonderful and has not proposed yet but has told me that he intends to. If I swapped from my rubbish high paid job to my dream job, I would also pick up all the housework so he would not have to do anything when he comes home (currently he does a lot) but I feel like it is unfair for me to let him support me so much, even though he says he wants to. I dont imagine us breaking up but if we did, I would not be able to support myself any more. I really want to follow my heart and change jobs but I don't want to be a selfish idiot that makes a mistake at the expense of her relationship. Please tell me what you think about this and how you might feel in my bfs position? Thanks :)