Should I get back together with my childs father?

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Should i get back together with my childs father? 

My ex and I were together for 3 years before I broke up with him... We had a beautiful baby boy together, who just turned three. We have been separated for a year and a half and I miss him greatly... However, the reasons we broke up are still valid...

He smokes weed all the time (I don't smoke or allow it around my child), he works a dead end job and has no career in his future. He is also a very negative person and always makes a situation worse by being negative...

Now that being said, I still love and miss him. We both just recently left the people we were worth and I'm wondering if we should go for round two... The reason I am cautious about this is because we have a really good relationship as exs. We eat dinner every other week as a family and have shared custody of our son. But I miss him... He knows this and he misses me but he says he just left the girl he was with and is not ready.

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I think that if you have a good friendly relationship going, wait. It seems he's already feeling some regret maybe guilt. One week at dinner, he may announce that he's stopped the weed. And a couple weeks later, perhaps there's another break, he's going back to school to learn a career trade. You didn't mention age, but good young men really begin to change when they see the whole scope of things to come. So don't just jump right back in. Take your time to be sure things are changing. If you two still care for each other, that's a good start.

Should I get back together with my childs father?

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