I have been living with my boyfriend (50) for almost a year now (I am 40). He has a steady job that pays almost $400/day, while I am back to school (newcomer, doing my master's degree in social work, finishing in 15 months from now). He drives $30.000 car, 2 years old, while I drive 2002 ford Taurus that is unreliable. I have 2 little girls from my previous marriage (7&9) living with us (their father is in Serbia), whom I drive in my car every day. At the same time, whenever my boyfriend asks me to drive him to the bar, he requests that I drive him in his fancy, new car (for he doesn't want to drive in my cold, slippery, busted old car). A few days ago, when I looked into buying a new car, he told me that he wouldn't even sign for me and my new car because we fight too much. Now, not only that I expect him to sign, but I would want him to actually LEASE a new $300/month car for me now, for I feel he is treating me like s..t! Am I spoiled for expecting too much or not?
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*** I have and question do you have and job? Who pays the bills do you share them? If not does he ask you for any money? Regarding co-signing if the shoe was on the other feet, would you co-sign for him to get and car, if he didn't have good credit? (Some people feel if they don’t take pride in their own credit who to say they will that pride in someone else if they co-sign for them) He is trying to protect his credit since he doesn't see and future with you. Because what did he say I quote… “A few days ago, when I looked into buying a new car, he told me that he wouldn't even sign for me and my new car because we fight too much.”
It sounds like to me, he just helping you out until you able to get on your own foot like finishing school. I might be wrong….this is my observation.
Thought provoking questions: If you had the good paying job and your boyfriend wanted you to co-sign for him, and he’s in school, now remember you don’t see a future with him. Would you co-sign for him?
You should totally break up with him. If he means a lot to you, don't try and say goodbye because that will notify to him that you never liked him in the first place. Why are you even his boyfriend if you know that he's been treating you like dirt? You and him should be able to work out your differences with each other, and take the time to "listen" to what you're both saying. If he doesn't want to listen, that's gonna mean one thing: Break up.
That is a great point. Please advise maybe.