Hello,

I love and respect women. I want the world for them and I fully understand, and support the fundamentals behind their well deserved, and recent sexual freedom - however, I feel I have become too informed about my girlfriend's past affairs; I am expected to meet and greet men, that are past lovers, whom she keeps as friends; I am expected to accept that she can constantly communicate with, schedule time with, and enjoy all kinds of help from, a past lover, who is older and more established than me; I must accept that when she tells me that this person is a 'spiritual friend', that this is not more than being 'just a 'friend', and that I need not worry about her making love to him again (even when she will visit him for a week overseas soon) because, to her, I am her boyfriend.
A part of me tells me to actually accept all of this, out of respect for her freedom as an individual, but another part objects, is frustrated and feels as though her liberalness, as I have described it, is an example of how today's womens' sexual freedoms and the acceptance of these freedoms throughout most of our society, may be undermining the intentions of honest men; causing anxiety and excessive jelousy in men; giving females themselves - false impressions of a perfect life which, being unobtainable - is breeding an insatiable desire for more and more; more partners, more financial gain and just too much self importance at the expense of men that simply, but - by nature - seek to settle for the one girl and work as hard as they can to merit a genuine relationship. I think my girlfriend is getting too far ahead of herself and that I might be hurt if I just let things be and 'take her word', as far as her fidelity is concerned. I don't see any past lovers or girlfriends at all myself, and potential ones or situations to meet them - I avoid.
I'd love to know your thoughts.

Adam, 28, Australia