Look, I'm a 21 year old woman; I'm married and have a kid, and this has been bothering the living hell out of me.
I always get super close (at least I think so) but then... NOTHING!
I've had sex with a total of 13 people since I lost my virginity at 18 and not a soul can get me to do it. Sadly, not even my husband (but I can never tell him cause he'll get all mad and depressed and I don't wanna deal with the pity me party).
Even during our recent separation, I had been with several men and still, nothing.
I've tried different positions (some better than others; but to no avail) and I've tried vibrators and watching porn and god! Everything! But I just can't seem to orgasm.
I don't know if it's because I have a didelphys (probably spelling it wrong) uterus; which means I have a wall down my uterus creating two instead of one (literally, I can feel it separate when I stick my finger in), or because every time I have sex, somehow even after giving birth to my daughter last year, I get as tight as a virgin. I don't know what it is. But I'm tired of faking it to these stupid ass men and myself.
I know I get super close when using a vibrator but my hand cramps up and it feels so good my legs and hips shake and I have to stop even though I know I haven't had one yet. Same with the only guy that ever brought me close enough just by going down on me and fingering me. I begged him to stop because I got so close but nothing happened.
Should I just accept that it'll never happen...?
I apologize for being graphic but I am very frustrated. I sorta consider myself a nympho but now... I can't even enjoy sex anymore..
Please... Any advice is welcome.
Sex - I can't have an orgasm and it's frustrating me to tears?
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Thank you for being honest, I almost cried when I read your plight. I would suggest that u try and relax during sex, u mentioned that u like being eaten out find a man who loves to eat pussy. Let him have his way licking, sucking, kissing and enjoying your pussy. Lay back enjoy and let nature take its course. Good luck from the bottom iof my heart.
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Baby show him where your Clit is, then tell him how u want it satisfied
I am so sorry I accidentally downvoted your comment and I can't take it back for some reason, I wanted to upvote :( your answer was beautiful
See, I would enjoy that and all but... My husband doesn't really know where my clit is and, though he tries, it just kinda bores me.
I have tried to relax my body, not think, go blank, everything. Still nada. Now it's wearing on our marriage because he's getting annoyed that I flat out don't want to have sex anymore. I'm just so frustrated.
Plus, in no offense to him but... he can normally only do it for 15 minutes.. It doesn't matter the speed or position. He's young so I mean... maybe that's it. But that's not all that bothers me.
Don't get me wrong, he's great in bed but everytime I get close, nothing.
It hurts more that I can't talk to him about any of this because it'll hurt his pride and he'll just call me a liar, even though technically I didn't lie, I just got information from an older woman who told me I probably never had one by what I've told her.