... hang out with friends or even have friends (my parents dont approve of nobody) im not allowed to let my children see their father or his family because they dont approve of him! All of this is considered a sin by them. If I make my own decision about my children that they dont approve of then im disobeying them and its a horrible sin according to them. Is there anyone else who thinks this is wrong? I feel like they think I have to listen to them forever
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In my opinion, yes they are wrong in this instance but still are entitled to their own beliefs. You're 19 and therefore an emancipated adult. If you depend on your parents for a home and financial support, it might be impossible to move out and thus you would need to learn to live with their beliefs, while simultaneously disagreeing with them. The childrens father , should he have a clean record and means of support, could apply for legal visitation rights despite your parents. If you are working and able to pay for rent, transportation, perhaps child care of some sort, and for the personal needs of you and your children, then you have the option of moving away, perhaps with the childrens father offering some assistance. It's a difficult situation I know, and I wish you and yours the best.
your parents are way to repressive. my cousin and his parents made plans with him and his fiancée to get married and have a place of there own when they where around your age. he's 21 now and has a place of there own already. i think you should try to get some kind of legal help for yourself your babies daddy and your kid. no kid should have to go without a father, i know how difficult that would be.
sounds to me like your family is even stricter than mine. religion can be good but you need to let your parents know that your not a child anymore and you have the right to raise your kids as you see fit. not everything they don't approve of is a sin. as you said your 19 your legally allowed to build your own life. you should also know that part of this is because they love you. but you need to be able to make your own decisions.
i can relate to your current situation, minus the kids. (i have none)
It not only is not right but is not legal. You need to move out with your husband?If not get married & start your own family. Contact Protective Services & they will help you.You will be under Bible guidelines to move your family out from parents.You are legally an adult at 18 years of age.those conditions will destroy your marriage if you stay with them.
If you are 19, and living in the United States, you are legally an adult. This means you can make your own decisions. I would not suggest disrespecting them blatantly, as this would only show, in their eyes, that you are yet a child and needed to be treated as one.
It’s probably going to be hard to leave, but if you want to actually live and not be a ‘sin’ under tyranny, you need to find another place to go. Really, I would be concerned about your children in such a strained environment. It would probably kill you to sever ties with them, but you probably need to. Hopefully down the line they’ll realize you did what was best for you, and can reconcile with you for that.
Well stated DoeLyn. How about being friends.
Good morning young lady, it's sounds like you are really frustrated and looking for a way out so you can enjoy life. But let's look at the situation from your parents standpoint. You are 19 with two children in a economically deprived world, as a parent myself I can understand their strong concern. If your parents are very religious and they truly stand by the beliefs of the Bible, then they may have so very valid concerns. First you have to ask yourself, is it their religious beliefs that you feel is causing them to feel this way or is it some of the choices that you have made that makes them feel this way. Let's look at the situation as it is, at 17yrs old or younger you made the decision to have sex which led to a pregnancy and you made this decision twice. I'm not trying to criticize you but it is what it is. As parents many times we can see what is going to happen in advance because either we seen it before or personal experience and we don't want to see our child go through the same thing. By them not kicking you out of the house shows that they love you and care for your well being as well as your children. Because a parent that doesn't care would have put you out of the house a long time ago. Maybe you should look into what your parents believe in and see why they feel so strong about there beliefs. You may find some things that would not only help your relationship with your parents, but also help you to make some wise and sound decisions about your future and your children.
I am not allowed to move out they say I have to be married and that im too young to be married also they dont approved of my boyfriend so if I got married to him they would probably disown me at the most