My girlfriend and i have been having problems recently. I just wanted some advice because im honestly stumped. Yesterday i had like a 3 hour text session with her about us and its always like that. I know she worries about our cultural differences but i try to reassure her that we will be ok. I just don't understand her though. She said yesterday that she was all clingy and lovey to all the other guys she dated and she can't be with me. That hurts cause i know im actually not a douche and am not gonna hurt her like the other guys she has been with but yet she prefers them. Its so weird because she had always crushed on me when i wasnt with her and i finally started liking her and found her amazing. But we are on break (winter break) after dating 2 weeks in school (in college) and its just hurt me cause we always talk about if we can make it or not and i just want to enjoy being together. I dont know what it is , if you could help me out. Im exhausted from all the arguing and from telling her how much i care for her only for her to say other guys are better.
Relationship advice?
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- 3+ months ago by Daemk
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- hour, girlfriend, text, wanted, advice, relationship, problem, yesterday, relationships
Responses (5)
I think perhaps she is worried because you might be the first person that she wants to stay with, this would lead to all the behaviour you describe. If you get the impression that she is expecting your relationship to fail, then ask yourself why this keeps coming up, she seems to be seeking reassurance and wants you to tell her what she wants to hear. Straight out ask her if she wants to keep being with you, tell her how you feel, you are both young and the failure rate for relationships at that age are high. If you both want to make it work both of you need to relax and let it take it's course or call it quits.
I have been through several relationships where one is more confident than the other. she may feel vulnerable or insecure and that is why she continues to talk about your relationship and "if you are going to make it" etc. One of the worst ways of communicating in a relationship is texting. My ex and I always misunderstood each other and actually would usually start a fight when there wasnt an issue to begin with. I would just be very honest with her, let her know your intentions, if she is saying other guys are better??? I would suggest she go out and try to find one. Girls are unfortunately naive (i am one and i know ha) but as I have aged, i realize that the very best man is one that accepts me, doesnt try to change me, and that can make me laugh! Good Luck. honestly I hope she recognizes your good nature and love that you have for her.
This is simple.. she knows exactly what shes got with you and how much you care. She is acting superior to you cause her feelings are not as intense. Shes used to idiots and bein a decent guy is making her see you as vunerable and weak. She knows she can scare you into thinking shes had better so watch your back. Keeping you on your toes. I think its clear to say that a realistic approach is needed and you need to reassess your place in this relationship. Be strong and see it for wot it is. Your dangling on a string and shes pullin the strings. Be smart